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Need Advice: Ex Reads the Blog
My ex and I have been broken up for about 1.5 months. We are still close and talk every day. I'm starting to get out on the dating scene and would love to post about it, but I know he reads my blog so I haven't.
I don't mind if he reads it, but I feel a bit guilty because I know it will hurt him to read about me and other guys.
Have any of you dealt with this? How long did you wait or what made you feel OK to post about new relationships?
Thanks in advance!
I don't mind if he reads it, but I feel a bit guilty because I know it will hurt him to read about me and other guys.
Have any of you dealt with this? How long did you wait or what made you feel OK to post about new relationships?
Thanks in advance!
Tags: blogging, relationships
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Permalink Reply by Everyday Soap on -
i once had to shut down a blog due to this very reason.... now i dont share my blog addy with men i date lol i learned my lesson
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
yikes, doing my best to avoid that situation. i want to be able to keep my blog open because the 20-something community is so great.
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Permalink Reply by Sara on -
Had you thought about maybe just telling him that you are going to be writing about that stuff, so if he thinks that it will bother him he should be careful in reading it?
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on
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i'm leaning towards doing that. i guess if he brings it up i'll tell him to read at his own risk. i really don't want to censor myself or leave out parts of my life because i want to have a my blog to look back on when i'm old and lame.
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Permalink Reply by Maxie on -
I agree with Sara-- if you guys are still close then maybe just tell him you'd rather him not read. Hopefully he will respect your wishes.
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Permalink Reply by PP on -
Two of my exes read my blog but neither of them have told me this, i've just worked it out myself. I more censor myself in that I still have feelings for one of them and admit this far less than i would if i knew he wasn't reading. I don't mind about posting about new relationships though (if i ever GET one) because i was the dumpee!
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on
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I suppose you do get more leeway when you are the dumpee. Alas, I am not, so I've been writing posts about new dudes, but keeping them private.
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Permalink Reply by Jon Bishop on -
I didn't know my ex read my blog until we got into a fight and I wrote about it and she commented on it. I deleted the post and we haven't spoken since. Now i know she still reads the blog but i just dont care if she reads anything she doesnt like.
If I had known she was reading it, I wouldn't have posted anything I didn't want her to see. Granted I wish she never knew about it in the first place.
I don't think there is much you can do because even if you tell him your going to be writing about other guys he's going to be tempted to look.... guys will be guys.
I would just try and be subtle in your posts.
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on
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Thank you...I was hoping I'd get some advice from a guy. Doing my best to avoid the post-blog-read freakout. I suppose subtlety will be the best policy for now.
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Permalink Reply by The Sassy Sexpert on -
In the past, I have also censored myself because an on-again/off-again guy I've been dating for the majority of this year reads my blog. I didn't really talk about one specific guy I dated again in between that he was jealous about (he was from before...). Even now, I want to wrap that story up on my blog but we're on-again(YAY) but....I don't want to hurt his feelings by talking about some other guy. I think I'm just going to be upfront and tell him that I want to finish that story.
I think since you say you still talk every day that you need to maybe tell him first something that lets him know you've been dating again (you don't need to go into detail....just mention it....like, oh this guy I just met loves The Office. or that's how I roll at least. They get the point.) Then, at least when he reads it, he may still be a little hurt but it doesn't come as a shock which is more upsetting.
One thing though I know now is for a period of time during our last off-period, he stopped reading my blog for awhile. He said he needed to focus on himself (true) and that reading about me was upsetting for him.
Your ex can make that decision for himself if that is right for him too...
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