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Is Writing about Sexual Encounters on Your Blog Taboo?
I know we risk being called Slut of all Sluts, but I feel like blogs should be as expressive as we'd like them to be. I'm pretty free with my thoughts, my daily encounters, and basically my life. Should a blogger leave the sex out?
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Permalink Reply by Brian on -
I probably wouldn't do it since my blog is on PR, but if you don't care sharing and don't care what others think - then I say don't even think twice about it. Post whatever you want. Just realize whatever you post on a blog become public information and anyone can find it.
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Permalink Reply by K on -
I dont think so. You should blog for you and damnit if you want to blog about your sexcapades then do it.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Personally, I like to practice a certain level of discretion not only with my personal romantic relationships, but with the writing on my blog as well. To me, divulging in every little dirty detail just seems...well, "tacky" and rather immature. It's almost like the person is begging for attention.
I know this sounds sexiest and there is a double standard here, but when a guy spills the dirt to the whole world it doesn't seem all that bad. But when a girl does it, it often leaves a bad taste in my mouth. And while what she writes is meant to sound sexy, it comes off as a huge turnoff to me. Almost grosses me out that she is so public about it. I find it much more erotic to leave something up to the imagination.
Of course this is just my opinion though and everyone has a different view on this. So one should write how they see fit.
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Permalink Reply by Katie Chin on -
Thank you all for your replies.
David, thank you for sharing your opinion, but my opinion differs in that I think female sexuality is not something that is a "turn off" or a "gross out." It is a victim of double standards. I like dirty details and I don't view them as tacky either. Leaving it up to the imagination is cliche.
I do agree, however, that one should write as one sees fit.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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I suppose if you are going to write about some random hookup/casual sex/one night stand, that type of thing, then I guess it’s no biggie. But if it’s about the sex you are having in an actual relationship, I definitely wouldn’t do it! It most likely will come back to haunt you. When you are in a REAL relationship and having sex, I think that should be private.
It’s an intimate part of the relationship you share with one another, so why would you want to let the rest of the world in on it? I like the fact that it’s just between the two of us, that is what makes it sort of special – sorry, that sounds a little cheesy. Anyway, I think any girlfriend of mine would say they appreciated the level of discretion I gave our relationship.
I’ve moved past my frat days when I would boast to my buddies about who I hooked up with. Once I got a girlfriend, I realized I didn’t want to share her, AKA share stories our sexcapades with my friends. And bragging online about getting laid seems like it’s just a way to get attention, usually the wrong attention. There’s just something about some old, unknown perv getting his jollies off of my tales that makes my skin crawl! But if you don’t mind that, I guess go for it.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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By the way if "leaving it up to the imagination is cliché", lingerie wouldn’t sell as well as it does. Think about it. ;)
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Permalink Reply by The Sassy Sexpert on -
It definitely does seem odd that you don't mind when a man does it but a woman does.....perhaps you should explore your motivations for this. Does it simply come from the slut/stud double standard or something deeper?
At least you're being honest but I think it's important to challenge this because this double standard of male and female sexuality really limits all of us.
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Permalink Reply by mom in real life on -
um...it doesn't sound sexist...that statement is sexist....
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Permalink Reply by Lisa on -
Things about David that make me happy: he shares his opinion loud and proud. He doesn't usually backtrack or rephrase. He just says what he thinks. I really appreciate that.
Things about David that make me punch holes in my computer monitor: Please don't say "I know this sounds sexist." The words you are looking for are, "I know this IS sexist." Is. Not "sounds like", not "might be", not "you might interpret it as...". It IS sexist. Please own up to what your double standard really is and then I will be a happy happy camper.
(That's a lie. Step 1 is owning up to that fact that what you're saying IS sexist. Step 2 is then challenging yourself to treat females and males equally)
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Permalink Reply by mom in real life on
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you are much better at saying that then I am. I felt like swearing, but what good would that have done anyone???
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Permalink Reply by Writing to Reach You on -
My opinion is always that your blog should be about whatever you want it to be about, so if that's what you want to share, then go right ahead! In this instance, you'll probably have to accept that it will turn off some readers (while drawing others in) and there's always a chance of people you don't want knowing such intimate stuff about you finding your blog.
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