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Another One Bites the Dust
Anyone else have any bad breakup stories that will make me feel better about being a failure at relationships?
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Permalink Reply by Tyla Kells on -
How is that a bad thing? It just means no one has come along yet that you want to be with. It's better to not be in a relationship than in a meaningless relationship because 'everyone else is doing it.' That's something to be proud of not ashamed. Good for you.
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Permalink Reply by Nicole Booth on -
those..were amazing.
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Permalink Reply by Jorah Day on -
I don't know how to write about this without sounding trashy.
I guess I can preface it by saying that we're pretty educated people and not really the type who would be found making a scene at a shopping mall. He's 35 with two kids and holds a good job with Conan O'Brien and I'm 27 and cut my teeth in the marketing industry for Insurance. (Kaiser Permanent campaign ring any bells? I worked on that.) so... I guess no matter how you cut it, no matter how new and nice our cars are, or how colorless and expensive our clothes were, how many degrees we held or how expensive that ring on my finger was... it speaks volumes to his class when I say my ex fiance' got me pregnant, left me hanging for the bills that accompanied the D&C, and then dumped me a week later over an email sent form his iPhone. The reasoning was vague and indecipherable other than "it's nothing you did, you were wonderful and I loved you." The email read like a letter of resignation rather than something written by someone with.... a heart?
I've not spoken to or heard from him since. a world of shocked friends and family, seventeen days of earth shattering pain, a tan line on my finger where my ring belongs, and thirteen pounds lighter- I'm starting to accept. But moving on seems light years away. If you'd like a daily progression of the stages of grief, it's all on my blog. But come December, I'm not writing about him anymore. I don't have that kind of life to waste.
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
The BF decided to leave almost exactly 2 years to the day we started dating. Today should've been our anniversary. He moved out on Friday. Today was also the anniversary of telling my XH that I was leaving him. I'm not going to call it karma because I don't think it is. I think it's a case of good things falling apart so that better things can fall together as Marilyn would say. I still don't understand why he left when all I did was ask his mother to please talk to me so that I could find out what I'd supposedly done to offend her and apologize for it. But oh well. No one needs a 30-year old mommas boy anyway.
(and yes ladies... it was the ryan reynolds lookalike that left.)
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Permalink Reply by Holly on -
I've only had a few guys in my life that were more than friends, but nuts.
One went to jail three days after we met. I didn't find out until the following Sunday at church when our jail chaplain told me. Yes, I met him at church. He was on probation, (claimed to be) getting his life on track, and missed an appt with his probation officer and she saw him walking down the street and had him arrested. He ended up spending six months in jail, and we got to know each other through letters and I would visit him until he got transferred to the next county when I didn't have a way to go visit him. When he got out things were ok for about a month or so, then we got into a fight one morning when he promised to take me to a car show and called me that morning, said he was stuck in a town 30 miles away with a flat tire, etc etc. Then calls me later that afternoon and tells me he is down in the city and if I wanted to come see him I could. I asked my brother to take me but he wouldn't because my brother's in-laws had just got in from out of state. The bf started threatening my brother's life and on and on.... that ended that. Last spring he was dating my roommates sister.
I met another one online. He had spina bifida and was confined to a wheelchair. That didn't bother me one bit. He begged me the night I met and was talking to him online to come straight to his house and sleep with him. Told him I didn't sleep with guys I didn't know nor had just met. We ended up meeting and dating, but I was living with my sister and not working at the time. He lived in a town about 10 miles away, so I would go pick him up and we would go somewhere, to one of my friends house, or to my sisters, or just out driving around. I never met anyone from his family and I always had to leave his house when I wanted to see him. He was always waiting for me on the front steps. It was cute since he couldn't walk I would carry him on my back lol. But when I came home to visit one weekend we were talking online and he started turning around everything I said and trying to make an argument out of it, then kept saying "he's done" so I would stop talking to him and he'd start talking to me like 30 seconds later. Then he tried telling me that I owed him $500 for gas money that he would give me to come pick him up and take him home and all the Mountain Dew he bought me and the times he took me out to dinner.... I never asked. If we were talking online and he would beg me to come pick him up or to see me, I would tell him I didn't have gas or money and he said not to worry about it, he would take care of it, etc, then turn around and tell me I owe him? Sorry, that's a gift dude.
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Permalink Reply by Ashley on -
It wasn't really a breakup because we weren't technically dating but pretty much we ended on a good note, I thought we were heading somewhere...well, today, I found out he's dating some girl because my friend is mutual friends with his girlfriend on FB. It hurts but it made me realize that I probably liked him for vain reasons and not legit reasons.
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Permalink Reply by Kayleigh Eneida on -
I was with a guy for 5 years. We started dating in high school and continued to see each other after. He wanted to join the military, which had been one of his dreams since Ive known him, and i didnt want him to go. We were the "perfect" couple. He was my first true love and first everything else, I never knew or wanted a life without him. Although i didn't want him to leave I decided to support his dream and not make a big deal about him joining the marines. He was in boot camp for three months, we wrote letter back and forth and i missed him more than I could explain. When he came home I was so excited, his family and I flew to north carolina to watch him graduate and bring him back with us but the boy who left for boot camp wasnt the same boy who came back. Slowly he became more distant and i knew deep down where our relationship would end up.
After a few hard weeks of not answering his phone, and not wanting to spend time with me, after not seeing him for what felt like an eternity i decided to take action. I did some psycho girl investigating and discovered he had cheated on me with not only one, but three other girls. I went crazy! I couldn't sleep, eat, talk, sometimes it was even hard to breathe. I couldnt bare the thought of him being with anyone but me. I thought we were going to last forever, get married, have babies but that wasnt the case.
After a few long conversations I decided to give him one more chance but our relationship after that was never the same. He continued to stay distant, one day i decided to show up at his friends house where he said he would be hanging out for a while. When i got there his friend told me he hadnt been there, but his car was out front. Immediately i pushed his friend to the side, walked upstairs only to find a girl in his lap kissing him. Im pyscho sometimes and if the girl didnt run away upstairs i might have thrown her out the window and then tossed him out after her. Especially since the girl was someone i knew for a while and it wasnt as if he had tricked her into thinking he was single.
Later that day he tried to come to my apartment and apologize but instead was greeted with a fist to the mouth. Since he was my first love i will always have feelings for him and sometimes think about what it would be like if we got back together, then i remember how i felt during that last year. Its a feeling i never want to experience again.
I'm the least jealous girlfriend you will ever meet, but for some reason he brought out all my worst qualities. A few years after we broke up he tried sending me text messages, asking if we could hook up even though i had a boyfriend. Deep down i wanted to say yes, but i knew it was a bad idea, so i went with the right choice and never looked back. He now has a girlfriend who i hope he is faithful too, they say people never change but maybe it depends on the person you are with. The right person can bring out the best in you and thats the person you should spend the rest of your life with.
And dont worry, sometimes it takes a while but im sure you will find someone soon enough. <3
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Permalink Reply by Lauren on -
i've casually dated a good amount of guys, and i have a lot of guy friends, but i haven't been able to actually get myself into a good, solid, healthy relationship. :( it's happened like once (and it was a distaster), and i'm 19, almost 20!!
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Permalink Reply by Rocket on -
My best friend who I was close to finally asked me out after realizing his true feelings for me and knowing that things could change I took a risk (and I told him that this would happen, and if it didn't work out, it would kill me, He assured me that this shouldn't be in my head and he couldn't stand being just friends anymore) I shared the stronger more than friends explosive feeling for each other. He asked me out via IM, I said yes, we went out for an amazing FIVE days, and he broke up with me after I was sharing bits of my sad feelings (for reasons not being him) that day, via IM saying he got ahead of himself, that he couldn't do it anymore.
This killed me.
I lost my best friend, and boyfriend.
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