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Anyone else Single, looking, but it's not exactly working?! Anyone else thing online dating is the pits?

I'm growing increasingly frustrated with the dating scene in NYC. I would love to "talk" with others and hear from others. I've been blogging about this for a while, have tried a few new things, but still- nothing changes!
I really don't want to try on-line dating again.. Any advice would be appreciated!

Thanks!
TudorCityGirl

Tags: NYC, dating, single

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Hah, that's funny because as I was reading I was thinking, well, if you haven't met anybody thought friends or coworkers, maybe Match.com. I always think it works out so well because at least you know the other person wants to date (unlike guys in bars).

I met my boyfriend through my last roommate. In fact, living with 2 guys introduced me to more other guys than anything else I've done.

Good luck!
I hear ya! Having just moved to CA I wanted to give myself some time to "adjust" before going out into the dating scene, and it's definitely different from what I'm used to back home. In the Midwest by the time you're my age (25) everyone is looking to settle down.... not so much here. People are 30 and still going out and partying like they're in college, and it's hard to find anyone who is serious about anything (other than drinking!). Frustrating, indeed.
Well- there are some layers to online dating.
The first and most important thing is that with FREE dating websites, you sort of get what you pay for.

The other thing is, a lot of that sort of 'dating' that happens from online seems to be a bit forced. Like, these people are looking far too hard. I know it would be ideal if it just sort of 'happened,' but that could take a while.

THAT said, I am in the same boat, m'dear. I'm having a hard time finding anyone. there are so many picture liars out there, and guys who are just sort of creepy, I'm not having any luck. I did a post about my newest plan to find a guy... You can check it out here.
I basically said that you need to decide what kind of guy you'd like to meet or be with, and then find them in places of their interest. I am personally attracted to well read men. So, I won't be looking in a bar- i'll be looking in a book store.

Its my new approach, and I hope it makes sense.
Other than that, I welcome anyone else's advice. (Man advice as well, seeing as how we don't see into your psyche well enough to snag a decent one of ya.)

Good luck. Its rough out there.

-TB
Dating and Chicago hasn't really done much for me. I've gone on a handful of dates, but nothings come of any of them.

I'm still on okcupid.com ... I'm mostly indifferent about it... It's a good way to kill some boredom. ... I also blog about dating and my lack of relationships a lot... I'm not terribly worried or bothered by being single, but there are definitely times when it'd be nice to have someone around. Right now it'd be nice to have someone to go out to dinner with or cook for/with...

This is what I learned from trying craigslist: http://lanek.wordpress.com/2007/10/03/post-collegiate-lesson-3/ (from a blog project of mine ... it's still on hiatus.. )

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