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Are you an adult?
I have this friend who believes you are an adult once you have gotten married and/or purchased your first home. I don't know about all that. I do know that I have done both and I still feel like a child-woman half the time. What qualifies someone as an adult? Is it a mindset, certain actions, age, or something else? Do you feel like you are an adult now?
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Permalink Reply by Angel on -
My goodness, I have never actually thought about this for any extended period of time. I think it's much more a mindset that, frankly, can come and go as you see fit. You can act like and "be" an adult for a long while and then spend an entire day at the beach running from the incoming waves and in that time you are once again a kid. As for the idea that you have to get married and/or purchase your first home forgive me for being blunt: what a load of bullshit. Maybe I have a different viewpoint on this but my roommate and one of my closest friends is asexual. She will never, ever, be married. She may buy a home but then again, being a huge fan of Fraiser, she may just rent an amazing apartment in some awesome city and never even own a home either. So in her case, by your friends standards, she would never be an adult? It just doesn't make sense.
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on -
I think my friend was kind of joking because he was feeling like he wasn't "adult enough" and needed to get going on some things. AND I agree with you. It's totally a mindset. I don't know if I have that mindset yet though. I don't know if I ever will. Sometimes I think about the fact that my husband and I have adult responsibilities and it scares the heck out of me.
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on
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I totally agree that the term "being an adult" is limiting in so many ways.
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Permalink Reply by katrina kay on
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lol that is just ridiculous what about people who never get married or live in a house I GUESS THEY ARE CHILDREN FOREVER
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on
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I wouldn't mind being a child forever. I kinda sorta hope I can be a little kid when I grow up.
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Permalink Reply by Oats on -
I think you become an adult when you lose the appeal to the things you had when you were younger and more naive.
There are plenty of parents that have houses that are not adults. There are many living on their own, renting along the way who are.
Some of us will go through a major life change that redefines our adult self. I have that clear line drawn for me and considered myself an adult from 26 on. There are others I know that were adults at a much younger age.
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Permalink Reply by Oats on
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What scares me are people that will be health care professionals that are clearly NOT adults. They don't behave like adults, they are irresponsible, they still think binge drinking is a good idea and they're over 25... and they will have patients in the next few months.
SCARY
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on
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So true! I think the same thing about some teachers. This person I know is a teacher and she goes out and drinks on the weeknights and does drugs, then she goes and teaches middle school kids. It totally freaks me out and I've decided when (If I have kids) I send my kids to school I am thoroughly checking it out first, along with their teachers.
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Permalink Reply by B on -
I agree with Oats, very scary. Or they're the people who are teaching children right now or handling our money.
I don't think we can actually answer this question with a set in stone rule for who is an adult and who isn't. You can be married, have kids and own your own house and business and still be extremely immature. The way I see it, the term "adult" doesn't really apply to a certain TYPE of person, it just generally sums up a certain GROUP of people. We're all about labels in the US and you can't call people 21 and up "teens" any longer, and if they haven't quite reached "senior citizen" status, you have to give them a name. The name happens to be "adult."
I'm fully embracing my late 20s stage right now, so I have no desire to be known as a full-fledged "adult." I prefer the term young professional, twenty-something, or whippersnapper even, to adult. Maybe it's because I equate adults with those people who have no imagination, social life or knack for fun? Something about the people I have met who consider themselves as adults comes off as crotchety. So I do not want to be lumped up with them! ^_^
But to answer the question, I do think at a certain age, you become more mature like taking on more responsibilities, getting a job that pays the bills and allows you to save, being in committed relationships, being involved in the community and politics, caring more about your health and well being, looking toward the future, and so on. So while some people may be kids at heart their entire lives, they do pass into a more mature level as they grow older.
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Permalink Reply by Heather on -
No one is every really an adult. They just get much better at disguising their immaturity.
Every year that passes, I always marval at how "adult" I feel during that year. Then I reflect on it and see how immature I really was in certain situations.
I think it's more your mindset that any obscure mile stone.
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Permalink Reply by Peppers on -
"No one is every really an adult. They just get much better at disguising their immaturity."
I love this! So true!
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