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Asking Out a Girl vs. Being A Gigantic Creeper
This needs explanation.
I work in a computer lab here on campus. There is a particular girl that comes in here during my shifts that I find absolutely stunning. I keep hoping that the opportunity to talk with her comes up, but the only time people need me for anything is if the stapler is broken.
I want to go up and ask her out for coffee... but I'm too much of a pussy. Trying to get my confidence up hasn't worked yet, but I'm getting there.
I could care less about the rejection aspect... I just think it's super weird for someone to go up to another person they have absolutely 0 previous contact with, engage in conversation, and ask them out. And for me, how would that work? "Hey, I've seen you come in for 4 months, blah blah blah, coffee?"
Girls, tell me honestly, because I'm truly bored with single life now. Is that creepy, or is that "normal"?
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Permalink Reply by Akirah on -
Nope. Not creepy AT all. My last boyfriend totally approached me at the gym out of the blue and told me he waited outside for me for about half an hour. Now THAT'S creepy. But he's foreign and I think a little unaware of these kind of things. Anyway, I don't think it's creepy to ask a girl to coffee. I think it's actually pretty sweet. Good luck!
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Permalink Reply by M.Ro on -
If a random guy came up to me, told me I was stunning and wanted to go out with me, I'd be flattered. Creepy is when you see a pretty girl driving while you're driving home and then you proceed to follow her home because she was ignoring your attempts to get her attention so you follow her home and try to talk to her there. Until you do that, you have nothing to worry about in terms of being creepy.
I think that's really cute though. If you don't want to ask her out with a bunch of people around, start off small. Make eye contact and smile at her. Then if she comes to you for help or just happens to be standing at the counter, introduce yourself. Tell her that you work there a lot, you've seen her around and you just wanted to introduce yourself, in case she ever needed help or anything. Leave it at that and see what kind of vibes you get from her. Wait a few days and then try to talk to her again. Take it slow and see what happens.
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Permalink Reply by John Reckzeny on -
If you feel uncomfortable asking her out, then find a way to draw attention to yourself when you are in her vicinity. Say hi & acknowledge her existence--don't be that guy who looks straight ahead when you walk by somebody. If she looks frustrated/tired/bored at the office, "just so happen" to walk by her desk and tell her that yer gonna get some coffee & if she'd like to come along and take a little break.
Once she knows who you are, just keep on putting yourself in a position that will allow her to seduce you/flirt with you if she so pleases. Keep track of "shifts" in conversations & questions, develop inside jokes with her, sympathize with the crap she complains to you about, etc. Sexual tension is a woman's porn.
Just pretend like a camera is following you around at all times. Your show is gonna to suck if you just sit around and wait for shit to happen.
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Permalink Reply by Erin McNaughton on -
I've been in a similiar situation (at a concert at a small venue) and a guy made eye contact a few times then came over, asked if I was there alone and such, got to know each other minumally, then he suggested coffee and I thought it was very cute so I said yes. With that kind of thing, give the impression that you want to "get to know her," not necessarily date her and I'm sure she'll take the bait. I would highly recommend making eye contact first or smiling, letting her know that you've noticed her...it kind of breaks the ice and tends to make someone (or at least me) more receptive and open.
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Permalink Reply by Simple Sapphire on -
I agree. Making eye contact or giving a smile is key.
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Permalink Reply by Simple Sapphire on
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Start with a smile or a hello. If she says it back and returns your smile, go from there. I work with people all day long but it is never more than the typical stuff I need to say or do to interact with them. But, after seeing a certain guy come in all the time, I began polite, small conversations with him as he passed by. When he'd walk into my store, I'd basically say, "Hello there. How is your day going?" After awhile, small conversations picked up until he finally asked me out.
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