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Attending a blogger's wedding...
So, as we've all experienced around these parts, blogging brings people together. It enables new friendships with people you never would've met (and sometimes never WILL meet), and you can really grow to love some of these people, right?
Well -- one of my closest bloggy friends is getting married this year, and I kinda REALLY want to go. But it's on the other side of the nation, and it would be a rather expensive weekend. My question is twofold:
1) What are the reasons to go or not go to a blogger's wedding?
2) If I did go, how could I save/raise money in order to make it happen without breaking the bank?
One thing I've thought of as far as #2 is setting up a donation button where people who read my blog can contribute via PayPal. Would that be inappropriate or weird?
I'd love to hear people's thoughts on this...
Thanks!!
Well -- one of my closest bloggy friends is getting married this year, and I kinda REALLY want to go. But it's on the other side of the nation, and it would be a rather expensive weekend. My question is twofold:
1) What are the reasons to go or not go to a blogger's wedding?
2) If I did go, how could I save/raise money in order to make it happen without breaking the bank?
One thing I've thought of as far as #2 is setting up a donation button where people who read my blog can contribute via PayPal. Would that be inappropriate or weird?
I'd love to hear people's thoughts on this...
Thanks!!
Tags: blog, friendships, weddings
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by Renee on -
I invited a couple bloggers to my wedding but that's because they were within driving distance. I hired another blogger as my photographer and another designed my invitations, so it was a bloggerific wedding. How far a wedding is makes all the difference. I wouldn't go to a good real-life friend's wedding if it was going to break the bank.
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Permalink Reply by Tabitha on -
How cool to have a bloggerific wedding! :-) But yeah, good point about breaking the bank. That's basically the reason I didn't invite any bloggers to my own wedding; because none of my bloggy friends even live in the same state as me.
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Permalink Reply by Mandy on -
I definitely consider some of my blogging friends to be among my best friends. Its only natural that you want to share their special day with them. I agree with Renee, I wouldn't go to a real life friends wedding if it was going to break the bank.
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Permalink Reply by A Super Girl on -
Hi!
I agree with the other commenters that you have to make the decision on what makes sense financially. I'm not a huge fan of the paypal option unless you're doing something for an actual charity. Especially these days, we all have our financial issues, so unless it's for a good cause (not that going to a friend's wedding isn't a good cause!), I'm just not a fan.
I wonder if you could just save up like you would for any other vacation. Setting a goal and putting $$ away little by little. There's some stat that I've heard that if you save a little over a dollar a day, you can save $1,000 in a year. Are there ways to save money on lodging by staying with someone else in the area or doing the whole couch surfing thing?
Good luck :-)
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Permalink Reply by Tabitha on
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Yeah, I think you're right about the paypal thing... I wasn't sold on the idea when it first came to me, but thought I'd throw it out there and see what other people thought.
I am totally up for the idea of saving a little bit each day/week/paycheck, but the plane tickets are the biggest expense (because I'd be bringing my husband, too), and I only have four months to save up. Sooo it's looking like I either need a miracle, a generous anonymous donor, and/or I would have to sacrifice going to Bloggers in Sin City, which I'm ALSO trying to save up for. Ack!
Thanks for your input!
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Permalink Reply by DShan on -
I've been to a blogger wedding (maybe two?) and I'd recommend going, especially if other bloggers are invited. It's fun to be at a party you know so few people at, but know so much about.
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Permalink Reply by Tabitha on
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Yeah! I think it would be a blast. My husband is the more practical one of the two of us, so he has brought up a lot of good (but frustrating) points like the fact that I probably wouldn't have much time at all to actually interact with the bride/blogpal, and the fact that I have had "real life" friends get married in closer proximity and chosen not to go, so why do I want to go so far to attend the wedding of someone I've never met?
It's just so hard to explain blog friendships to non-bloggers...
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Permalink Reply by Nando Tampubolon on -
1. the reason why u must go to the wedding, cause you know, u said this is wedding of ur closest bloggy friends 'closest', doesnt it mean like bestfriend in real world ?
2. Mostly people spend their money to food and baverage, like snacks. Less snacks and less shoping. It works
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Permalink Reply by MEGMICHELLE on -
I think it would be a great adventure to attend your blogger friend's wedding. It would be good to go to share this special day with your friend. But I agree, I wouldn't go to a real life friends wedding if it would break the bank. You could set aside a certain amount from each paycheck or something similar.
I don't really trust the whole "donate" button. I feel like it's really selfish. Maybe you could look at getting some sponsors for your blog.
I hope you work out to where you can go.
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Permalink Reply by Berrak Sarikaya on -
I'll be going to a blogger's wedding in Texas in June. I was honored to even be invited and I'm actually going to get to meet a few bloggers/closeamazingbest friends that are all over the country and who have been my rock for the past few years.
For me, it's worth it because she isn't a 'blogger' friend...She's a real friend and I love that my boyfriend understands this part of my life or he'd never go for helping me pay for the tickets.
It all depends on you and how close you feel to the bride.
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Permalink Reply by Amy --- Just A Titch on -
A blogger I am semi-close to has extended the invite to her wedding, too. I can't go due to other commitments, but if it were possible, I would still be on the fence. I agree that it'd be fun if I knew other bloggers or it was a wedding like the adorable Renee who made hers "bloggerific" but if I knew no one else AND wouldn't really get to hang out with the bride, it just wouldn't be my deal. Explaining to randoms how I'd met the person would make me more awkward than normal. I'd prefer to schedule a weekend with more bloggers (like a meet-up) and actually get to hang out.
As far as the PayPal thing, I'm just not a fan of anyone doing it, save for charity. I love y'all, but I don't want to sponsor your trip anywhere, be it a wedding or China or anything else so you can do your thing. Call me a Scrooge or a meanie, but I just am not okay giving people money for "fun" things I'd never request myself. Sorry! You can all hate me now. On the other hand, I'll never hit you up for $10 to sponsor my anything...so, even trade?!
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