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Biological clock
So I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about biological clocks and modern 20-somethings. I'm writing a post about it, but I wanted to hear your guys' input as well. What's your take on the "biological clock" and having children? Do you think its actually more sociological pressure than biological? I've talked to some women who are much more conscious of the "ticking" (to stick to the metaphor) than others. I'm all also curious about men's take on the whole thing- do you feel a pressure to reproduce too? In what sense?
Tags: biological, children, clock, kids
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Permalink Reply by ryan holman on -
i think we only feel the pressure from our girls... i mean im only 25, but i have never had another dude say you need to get on that and start making babies... typically we are the opposite... "dude, you better hope she doesnt get pregnant" is more the pressure we hear...
i think its at least 50% sociological for the girls tho. i'm not one. clearly. but if i had to guess im sure it comes from married friends with kids and mothers wanting grandkids more than it comes from a talking uterus.
but im a guy. we are dumb.
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Permalink Reply by L.L. on -
I think it's pile of crap (so, in your words, Sociological) but sometimes I can't help but acknowledge that it happens to me (not with wanting kids, but with getting married). I wrote about this a few weeks ago, check it out if you want...
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Permalink Reply by L.L. on
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I'm with you. I don't do babies. If I could give birth to a seven year old and skip the baby stuff, I would think about it.
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Permalink Reply by Sparky on -
I've never really been a maternal type person, kids after the age of about 3 or 4 I can put up with, but I'd have to give them back at the end of the day. And I've been like this since I was about 12 or 13, I always knew that if I had kids then it wouldnt be until my late 20s at least. Babies kinda freak me out, but then again my mum was the same before she had me, and even now she doesnt have maternal feelings, only for me.
That said, like someone else on here, I've had those "hmmm maybe I would someday in the future, they are kinda cute, and I'd love to have someone who loves me for me, just because" feelings, but not very often (more often recently but I've been going through a rough patch).
However, the view that you can only have kids if youre settled down and married (or at the very least living with someone) pisses me off. What makes two parents better than one? Half the time youve only got one parents input anyway. Like for those that have a partner in the forces, he/she will go away for weeks or months at a time, and leave his/her partner to look after the kiddie. (I know this cos my Dad was in the forces)
Or (god forbid) the marriage breaks down for some reason, then the kiddie is left with one parent. So why cant we be left to choose whether we have a kid on our own or not? I get the feeling that if I wait around for "Mr Right" I may never have kids. And although I dont want them right now, I may want one in a few years time. And why do I need to wait around for Mr Right, who may only turn out to be "Mr Right, for now at least" or he may never turn up?
Obviously I get the point that a kid needs stability and two parents to give him or her a more well rounded point of view but there are plenty of single parents who have lost their partner for some reason (death or separation) who bring up their kid and do a wonderful job....
I think I went off the point.... Sorry!
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Permalink Reply by Kanriah on -
I think for a lot of people it is just personal and a lot of that can because of social reasons. All their friends are, their family, the people around them, and they wonder if they are missing out. Others, they just decided when they were young that 25 was the perfect age and at 25 they're like Oh No I'm behind schedule! Or they just have a strong desire to be a parent. Different things for different people I suppose.
Personally, even with 2 kids, I have not once felt the burning desire to get pregnant and have babies. I Love my kids and am glad I have them. Part of that may be having my son at the early age of 20 and my daughter at 22. If I got pregnant now, I'd be happy about it. But I'm not ging to go Try to have babies.
My husband on the other hand.... I've been putting him off for almost 2 years now. He was the one who got baby fever before our daughter was born and he's getting it again. We are an atypical couple. I'm fine either way, he's not. He is feeling that ticking clock and he wants one Now. ugh.
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