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Can you lovely geniuses help a girl out?
A very familiar 20something issue has come up in the Muffin household recently, hopefully something you all can help give your opinions on. I've recently been made redundant from a job that was meant to be my first step towards copywriting/editing/freelancing/something relevent to my degree. I fell into restaurant management without meaning to and this last job was my break from it all, starting in the right direction.
Unfortunately (fortunately?) I've been offered another position back in the catering management field and I have to make a decision very soon whether or not I'm going to take it. It's a fairly significant pay rise but the hours are terrible and completely mismatched from my hubby. It's the exact opposite of the career path I want to take but the money is tempting, especially when everyone is having such a hard time. I have a few prospects in copywriting/freelancing but nothing that will come about as quickly as this has, if they pan out at all.
Have any of you been in this situation before? It's that same old debate...do I live to work or work to live? I feel like a kid clinging to my dream like a security blanket when I should be 'adult' and do what's right. How would/did you decide? I would love to also discuss the major issue here, not just my personal situation too!
Unfortunately (fortunately?) I've been offered another position back in the catering management field and I have to make a decision very soon whether or not I'm going to take it. It's a fairly significant pay rise but the hours are terrible and completely mismatched from my hubby. It's the exact opposite of the career path I want to take but the money is tempting, especially when everyone is having such a hard time. I have a few prospects in copywriting/freelancing but nothing that will come about as quickly as this has, if they pan out at all.
Have any of you been in this situation before? It's that same old debate...do I live to work or work to live? I feel like a kid clinging to my dream like a security blanket when I should be 'adult' and do what's right. How would/did you decide? I would love to also discuss the major issue here, not just my personal situation too!
Tags: but, career, don't, dreams, help!, i, money, waaaaaanna
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Permalink Reply by d.muffin on -
Oh I know exactly how you feel! All bets are off during hard times, aren't they? I've done terrible jobs before, I can do it again :)
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Permalink Reply by Mindy on -
If you think you can wait until copywriting/freelancing becomes a career, becomes something you can do and live from, then by all means I say follow your dream. If the money isn't an issue - at least not yet - and you can live from what you have now or what your husband makes, it'd be shame to take the job you don't want quite as badly.
But if you need the funds, if you truly can't wait it out and hope your degree leads to something prosperous, my advice would be to take the catering management position. Maybe it's not your ideal situation, but you could always keep your dream alive by freelancing in whatever free time you do have.
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Permalink Reply by d.muffin on
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I think this is very sound advice :) you know how sometimes you just need someone to tell you exactly what you've realized yourself? thank you!
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Permalink Reply by Manish Ahuja on
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I'm not sure if my reply will help you in any way, although I hope it gives you yet another perspective to think about.
Well considering this is so not the job which you want to be in, the ideal answer should be don't do it, but I'll still tell you my reasons so you can evaluate the situation.
- You're trying freelancing. Can you try to look for opportunities simultaneously while you work at this new job during your non working hours, holidays etc?
- You know the job is exactly against your husbands job timings and that you wont last here for long even if you take the job. BUT the money is really good so I say if you think this good money can help you to save up for something good, WHY NOT give it a shot? Go, work there for as much time as you can sustain, collect some dough and at the end of it feel good about it.
The basic idea is just not to kick an opportunity which is knocking at your door. Remember the saying a bird in hand is better than two in the bush?
I hope my message has led you to a constructive path and hopefully has not confused you more than before.
Wish you all the luck. Hope it helps.
Manish :)
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Permalink Reply by d.muffin on
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I did help, thank you! I need to remember it isn't going to be a forever thing and should buck up nancy :)
You helped me realize that it's worth a shot to just explore what the job may be like...if it's unbearable, at least I knew I tried.
What I need to figure out is if it'll take up too much of my time to find other stuff. Thanks! x
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Permalink Reply by Cee on -
I think no amount of money is worth the trouble if:
1) It's not something you want to do
2) You won't be happy with the hours or how that will affect your personal life.
If you & your hubby are doing OK financially, and you're in the right direction of where you want to go, it doesn't make sense (at least to me anyway) to be completely unhappy in a direction you don't want to be in just for the extra money.
If it helps, you should do one of those "T" charts they taught us back in grade school. I do those ALL the time for most of my major life decisions, and they haven't failed me once :)
You could do either a pros/cons of the job offer, or what you like about the job you have now vs. the job offer
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Permalink Reply by d.muffin on
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oh good idea! I haven't done one of those in years! I'll make a ven diagram and a thought cluster and a turkey hand too, just because I like turkey hands ;)
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Permalink Reply by d.muffin on
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What made you leave exactly? What sector were you in? Now I'm all curious like! :)
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