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Cat calls, whistles and objectifying statements?
So question to you all. How do you feel about men who whistle or make cat calls at you?
I just wrote a blog about how it made me feel, and realized its not something I know much about when it comes to other people's opinions.
I find it incredibly degrading and objectifying, and am FAR less likely to respond to a guy who does that, then a guy who actually takes the time to talk to me.
So why do guys seem to think that girls actually like getting cat called, and when the girl doesn't respond, what is it with guys yelling stuff at them like 'F*** you too!' ??????
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
i just laugh... i mean really, what else can you do? I find it flattering that someone I don't even know might find me attractive... its not like I'd ever actually give them the time of day, but its funny.
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Permalink Reply by cooper on -
I don't think any woman with any respect for herself no matter what age - 20 or 70, is going to be pleased to have some scuzzy people cat calling at them. It is also sometimes scary. It is merely another form of sexual harassment.
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Permalink Reply by leilani on -
agreed... it is sometimes scary and indeed evokes the same sentiments as other types of sexual harassment. wish i could prosecute for this type, though.
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Permalink Reply by Erin on -
I got cat called and sexually harassed WAAAAAAY too many times in my old town to have an objective opinion about this, but I totally get pissed whenever it happens. I used to laugh it off, but it began happening way too often. And there was absolutely no reason for it, other than I was a new person in town. It got to the point where my co-workers would laugh about it (because it happened at least once a week) and I would be truly aggravated because, while it's meant to be a compliment, I always felt like a piece of meat those men were staring at.
I've never heard a man respond to me ignoring him, but if he did... well, it just wouldn't be pretty. Thanks for your backhanded compliment by cat calling me, but really? I'd rather spend time someone who has the guts to approach me.
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Permalink Reply by jay. on -
I'm one of those people that just let things roll off my back. If someone whistles at me... instead of getting aggravated and offended by it, I just pretend I didn't hear it. I don't really have an opinion on it because I don't take the time to think about it. It's petty.
However, if someone is openly hitting on me... I either find a way out of the conversation, or find a way to flash the rings.
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Permalink Reply by Harley Jane on -
I love it, and I've always loved it. I just take it as any other kind of compliment, usually I might grin and wave. I'm obviously not going to be having in-depth conversations with these people; they're generally working on building sites or groups of lads bored out of their minds. Doesn't mean I'm going to take offence to them telling me they think I'm pretty (which is basically their message, put forward in a more crude manner). I don't think total strangers should be able to have a negative effect on your good mood!
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Permalink Reply by R. on -
I think I'm going to go against the grain and say it doesn't bother me too much. I guess I think it's semi-flattering. I don't respond to it, usually just smile and laugh it off. Someday I'll be old and wrinkly and wishing people still whistled when I walked by.
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Permalink Reply by Stumbling Forward on -
I'm starting to think, just through different responses, that perhaps it's a... hmm I don't want to say morality, because that's not the right word... but, like different outlooks on life? Not saying that either is wrong of course. But I wonder if someone's values plays a role in how they take such a comment/act?
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Permalink Reply by Whitney on -
As long as it doesn't come across as threatening, I don't mind it. It does bug me if the guy continues going after me after I either point to my ring or comment that I'm married.
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Permalink Reply by Koko on -
It doesn’t really faze me anymore. I've just learnt to ignore it. I don't think it warrants being acknowledged either as offensive or not because either or, that's reacting to it. Though I have to admit it’s rather hard to do when an entire construction site and street turns to see what the fuss is.
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Permalink Reply by Susie Q on -
I don't mind it when I'm walking about on the street... But when I'm at work and someone comes in and is like "you're pretty, you look like you need a good sausage for tonight", I tell them to leave and never come back.
I don't mind the cat calling, but making rude comments is just so.. childish. It's something you do when you're 12. It makes me shudder and when I hear that, I just give them the most demeaning look I can and turn away.
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