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Christmas with the in-laws! Do you love it? Tolerate it? Hate it? Or just skip it?
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Permalink Reply by Alicia on -
I don't mean to brag but I got really lucky. My in-laws love me, and they're fantastic people who I hit it off with the first time I met them. I'd rather hang out with them than my own family. When we got married, my MIL told me that if the relationship didn't work out, I could come "home with her" and my husband would have to find somewhere else to go. Now, if my husband were in his 20's he'd go with the "not do anything with them" choice.
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Permalink Reply by Erin McCarthy on -
This sounds a lot like my situation. They told me pretty early on that they would adopt me and give him away if we broke up. Which is good because I plan to by the new year. I kid, I kid.
My family is just as stressful, but he would prefer his own because they have a piano at his house.
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Permalink Reply by Angie on -
Honestly, I'm pretty lucky. My mother-in-law and I have some differences and we're stubborn, so we've had our share of hard times. But so did my birth mom and I. My MIL is super funny and pretty open-minded and nice, so we have a hell of a good time during the holidays!
Jen and I went there for Christmas Eve fondue and Christmas Day gifts and breakfast/lunch! FIrst time we have our own place for the holidays, so we wanted to spend time with them!
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Permalink Reply by Kanriah on -
My in-laws are nice, but we aren't comfortable together. They're considerate and polite Usually, but they also know I'll get speak up if they piss me off. I just Don't want to feel On Display at Christmas. I want to be Comfortable with my Family.
Like last year. They tried to commandeer Christmas. We believe in just the family, not extended family for christmas. They came to town anyway. SO we told them they could see the kids on Christmas eve and Maybe Christmas evening but that we were doing Christmas day alone. They KEPT my kids overnight. On Christmas eve. They wouldn't bring my kids home til Christmas morning. They brought the kids over, I gave them space to say bye cause I didn't wanna cause a bad Christmas for my kids. They Wouldn't Leave. Finally I kicked their asses out. You do NOT refuse to bring my kids back to me at ANY time, ESP Christmas eve and expect me to smile and take it. Thankfully Husband supports me on that sort of thing so he wasn't mad at me about it, Plus he couldn't really fault the way I handled it. I wasn't Mean or Cussing when I said it, but I was Firm and Not playing around with them. The kids didn't even notice since I kept it civil.
Needless to say, this year they didn't even Mention coming to see us.
By the way, Husband and I have been together since we were 16 (10yrs) and married for 3yrs. So this is not a New thing. It took years to be Nice to me instead of cold Bitches (they didn't like my mom so took it out on me the jerks). We've only become politely friendly in the last 5 yrs or so.
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
i pretty much hate the holidays... primarily because I don't get to spend any time with my family. My mother and grandmother live in England so I don't get to see them often and it breaks my heart that I can't spend the holidays with them. My dad and I usually do something on xmas eve but i still feel bad that I don't get to spend xmas day with him. I miss my family traditions, my mothers cooking etc.
I just tolerate my IL's holidays... i appreciate that they want to include me, but at the same time it drives me insane- I'm never comfortable around them to begin with and i feel expected to be there because they invited me. I'm one of those people who like to deal with people on their own terms... and the holidays i kind of feel like just wrapping myself up and never leaving my house or dealing with people. The holidays make me *really* depressed and stressed out and they stress me out even further... probably because they want us over nearly every weekend, or they call daily. I'm not used to that kind of dynamic- my family and I aren't all that close anymore, but it makes the time that we do spend together more meaningful because we make more of an effort to get along.
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