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Cute v. Hot/Sexy
So the cute v. hot/sexy debate is one I've had quite a few times with my friends. The consensus among my friends (male and female) is that I have the Cute Look down pat but I can't really pull off the Sexy Look. I think it's my face - kind of doll-esque. Maybe if I put a paper bag over my face and just wore lacy lingerie...
As far as attraction goes, it's not as if the Cute Look ever goes out of style, but certain contexts require unveiling the Sexy Look, which I just do not have.
How do you pull off a Sexy Look if you are undeniably Cute?
Is it even necessary to be able to pull off the Sexy Look? Can cute be sexy? Is sexy in the eye of the beholder?
As far as attraction goes, it's not as if the Cute Look ever goes out of style, but certain contexts require unveiling the Sexy Look, which I just do not have.
How do you pull off a Sexy Look if you are undeniably Cute?
Is it even necessary to be able to pull off the Sexy Look? Can cute be sexy? Is sexy in the eye of the beholder?
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Permalink Reply by cooper on -
I don't think they are mutually exclusive terms, sexy is subjective, at least for me, so I imagine it is the same for my heterosexual male friends as well. Actually I just shot off a bunch of tm's and the overwhelming answer is cute can be sexy. So it may be impossible to look sexy if you are undeniably cute but that doesn't mean you won't be seen as sexy because it depends on who is looking.
Other than that - sunglasses work.
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Permalink Reply by Albert on -
Okay, for me there are different 'levels' of looks. In no particular order, there is cute, sexy, beautiful, gorgeous, fiiine and so on. Being a Playboy fan, there are models that are beautiful, gorgeous and surely sexy. But for me, the models that are top on my list are the cuties. Even just walking down the street, the cutie always catches my eye and is definitely someone who I would go up to and ask out. A cute girl can be sexy, it's all about how she carries herself. And also, a cute girl doesn't really need to be sexy either. I did recently blog about 'What Is Sexy?' Check it out http://humbleswagger.blogspot.com/2009/05/what-issexy.html
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Permalink Reply by Mila G. on -
I think theres also the big difference which many of my guys friends say between girls you want to date and girls you want to sleep with. More guys date cute.
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Permalink Reply by Sebastian on -
Yep, it's just a different appraisal --
Cute = a girl holding (someone else's) newborn baby that just makes you go 'awwww, she'd make a great mother .. ... ..'
Sexy = i.e. you want to have SEX with. This is definitely a taste thing for guys -- some guys might like the heels, some might like the fit-and-active kickboxing types, or for some (like me) being cute IS sexy.
I wouldn't worry too much about being sexy -- that's more about finding the right person that appreciates your looks/abilities/charms. It's a lot harder to be cute.
To BE sexy, well, as I hinted, that depends a lot on who you are trying to convince that you are sexy :)
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
This Cute vs Hot/Sexy debate sort of makes my head spin with confusion, but I can tell you this from a guy's perspective...
If my friends and I are out and we are discussing girls, a "cute" girl is a girl who isn't bad looking. AKA, she's cute. And because she's cute, she would be someone a guy may ask out, but doesn’t having you drooling and lusting after her.
Whereas a "hot/sexy" girl is someone who is smoking! She is beyond cute and you'll go out of your way to get her number. She instantly gets you thinking dirty thoughts and this is a girl you don't just want to take to dinner, but have sex with.
Vulgar? Maybe. But true. That's the best way Cute vs Sexy/Hot can be defined from a guy's perspective.
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Permalink Reply by SassyGirl on -
So from what I understand, cute is not a different look, it is a less-than-gorgeous position on the beauty scale?
But I don't know if I really believe that - maybe in the usage of the word in everyday conversation - but I definitely see a difference in "cute" models v. sexy models, and they're both models, they just model different things. In other words, as far as the beauty spectrum, they are on the same level of good-looking-ness (ok debatable I guess, if your definition of good-looking is based on sex appeal), but in very different ways. One sells candy and the other sells lingerie. That is the cute v. sexy I am talking about.
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Permalink Reply by DShan on -
First of all, I'm going to start with this; being 'cute' in the way that guys say 'damn she's cute', is how you want to be. Cute, where I'm from, is definitely the 'I would date her, I would be around her all the time" kind of look.
The 'handsome' for women.
The hot/sexy thing is more of an attitude or an outlier look; some really odd looking women can have a sexy thing going on. Putting aside a 'sexy attitude', which i think is subjective, the 'sexy' look is (in my mind) a nudge towards edgy, which when you stand up next to the long lasting, classical 'definition' of beauty starts to look far less enticing than 'cute'.
:)
Let's not forget that men are zoo animals, and if I had to put my money on which interpretation of beauty/attractiveness/genealogical success WINS in the face of our evolutionary tendencies, well, I'd be putting that money on Cute.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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A cute girl doesn’t hold an immediate sex appeal like hot girl does. I think that is the difference here, or rather the point I was trying to make.
Now that doesn’t mean that a cute girl can’t become sexy to a guy she’s been dating after awhile, because sometimes attraction can grow stronger over time. It’s just that upon the first impression, the sex appeal/sexyness isn’t there.
If we use your example of two models, one selling candy and the other selling lingerie...I think most guys would go for the lingerie model. Just being honest.
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Permalink Reply by Albert on
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but that depends on what you like, I like candy better LOL what am I gonna do with lingerie? haha
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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See, that's where you have it all wrong. SHE should be the candy!
And whatever you do, don't YOU wear the lingerie. That's for girls only.
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Permalink Reply by Andhari on -
Sexy sometimes can be achieved on how you present yourself, better if not skankily, you know. Classy, smart, interesting. It's like a whole package. Cute can be sexy. Most people tell me how childlike I look, I hate being called cute a lot. But there are several ocassions that they cant point out to me that I'm cute. It's usually how a girl transforms herself.
Cute girls can be sexy, sexy girls cant always be cute.
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