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Dating co-workers... yay or nay?
A high school friend of mine met a guy and fell head over heels in love with him... after six months of dating this coworker of hers, they got engaged, and are now happily married.
On the flip side, I've seen guys in my companies who have slept with pretty much every girl in the company. Ewwwwww.
I did date a guy in my company once, and surprisingly (haha) it didn't quite work out. We're friends which is cool, but sometimes there is a level of awkwardness.
So yay, or nay? Have you dated a coworker? How did that work out?
On the flip side, I've seen guys in my companies who have slept with pretty much every girl in the company. Ewwwwww.
I did date a guy in my company once, and surprisingly (haha) it didn't quite work out. We're friends which is cool, but sometimes there is a level of awkwardness.
So yay, or nay? Have you dated a coworker? How did that work out?
Tags: dating, relationships
Replies to This Discussion
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on -
As for me i have never dated a Co-worker, but Borack Obama did and its working out so far. But i cant imagine it, it would be too much chemistry and my employer would have find found out, and then one of us would have to go.
However i think it would too much, everywhere we go we see each other, i think thats kinda too much for me personally. I mean we could have sex in my office and that would have bin a GREAT experience.
I have not and i would idk idk if i would ,yes maybe but it would be difficult
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Definitely nay! The first rule of the workplace is don't mix business with pleasure. You're just asking for trouble if you do, not to mention the extreme awkwardness of hooking up with a co-working and then things not working out. Who would want to be around their ex EVERY day, 8-10 hours a day? Sounds tortuous to me. And all the whispering around the office cooler - no thanks!
I'll admit I've been tempted before. And I will admit to making out with a co-working once at happy hour, but it didn't go further than that. Although we did try to get one another fired, that way we could date. ;)
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Permalink Reply by Emmie on -
I havent dated a co worker but know people who have.. It gets too messy if you split up and imagine the pain if they start dating another co worker =( not good :( although you certainly cannot help who you fall for x
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Permalink Reply by Andhari on -
I've been a few times, and its not usually working out good. Or maybe its just me. Some people survive it, you cant help who you like sometimes.
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Permalink Reply by Mindy on -
In high school, I dated a coworker and we were together about 3 years, including after he left the job. It really wasn't a problem ever, but it was high school, after all.
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Permalink Reply by ChinkyGirlMel on -
Definitely a nay for me. Though I've never dated a co-worker before but I have a coworker who were officially a couple for about a year. But their relationship was kept a secret. Anyway, they eventually broke up and the office has been pretty tense with the two of them around. A couple sob fests from the girl saying how she gave him everything and oh the usually drama. But yeah, definitely awkward.
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Permalink Reply by owais on -
I dated my employer for a couple of months. Things were fun….. But they were more fun when we had a break up!
Monday we had a break up and by Saturday I was writing my resignation :D
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Permalink Reply by SuzANNE on -
Inspired by a post on Make Me Blush, Drive Me Wild on blogspot.com
Just say no. Friendship is the foundation on which any good relationship should be built upon, therefore, the Jim and Pam dynamic (via The Office) appealed to me (despite the fact that I think you shouldn't 'shit where you eat/date a co-worker). The pair has been through love affairs, break-ups, make-ups, long distances and average couple everyday dilemmas (like how to get out of an excruciatingly awkward dinner party/annoying future brother-in-laws). Yet like any solid relationship, they've bounced back with humor and grace. Who knows what writers have in store for Beasley and Halpert, but I know I've enjoyed watching their relationship progress.
Oft times, love is found because of proximity, I'm often lamenting about the dating scene and how difficult it is to find quality men these days- but the JAM romance gives me a glimmer of hope and something to aspire to. Not the part about working together, but the part about falling in love with someone who's your friend first, and having a good time while you're at it. Although romanticized by NBC, I think dating a co-worker is a bad idea for young people. Focus on your job and get a career and leave emotional distractions outside of the workplace, I say. But that's just me.
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Permalink Reply by Ryann Warlick on -
It shouldn't be spur of the moment. It should be slow, to see if there could be any hitches, so that you don't get to far in before you see these hitches. And you should keep your relationship and work completely separate. Don't talk about your relationship at work. If you have a fight, come in, breath, and act as though it isn't there. There would be tension, but don't bring up anything that happens at home at work. So that if it does go wrong, you won't be used to bringing these things up at work. Few things can ruin a job faster than bringing your personal life into your job.
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Permalink Reply by Suz on -
If you are serious about the job and see yourself there long term, I say Nay! I dated a co-worker for a year and a half and it was weird at first and then great and then when we broke up we tried to do the friends thing, but things just got too weird. I found another job to escape that and it ended up being a miserable position compared to my last job. It's hard enough to avoid the drama in the workplace. Adding dating a co-worker in the mix and it's impossible. Just so no to dipping your pen in the company ink!
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Permalink Reply by laura marie on -
Are people automatically against it because if you break up with a coworker you can't throw a tantrum in public without risking the loss of your job?
Grow up. You shouldn't be pulling inappropriate stuff like that during a break up anyway.
I would never 'just say no' based on principle of working together. That's as bad as automatically ruling out someone who's shorter than you. Let go a little and hone in on the maturity.
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