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Dating co-workers... yay or nay?

A high school friend of mine met a guy and fell head over heels in love with him... after six months of dating this coworker of hers, they got engaged, and are now happily married.

On the flip side, I've seen guys in my companies who have slept with pretty much every girl in the company. Ewwwwww.

I did date a guy in my company once, and surprisingly (haha) it didn't quite work out. We're friends which is cool, but sometimes there is a level of awkwardness.

So yay, or nay? Have you dated a coworker? How did that work out?

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Permalink Reply by Scoman on January 21, 2009 at 9:14pm
No from me. One of my friend did and ended up marrying the girl, but that was after they both left the company and started working in two different places.

It's enough to have to see someone every morning, night and weekend but at work as well? Nope.
Permalink Reply by laura marie on January 21, 2009 at 9:19pm
I thought I would die seeing someone that much. Moreso, I thought he would get sick of me in a couple weeks flat.

I would say sometimes it's fucking weird. But not bad. It's been a year and a half and we're not lovey dovey in love, but I still don't mind seeing him as much as I do. Our cubes are even close enough where I can see him when I stand up.

I really just think it's a challenge in personal maturity and restraint.
Permalink Reply by Gary on January 21, 2009 at 10:10pm
I say "yay"! The workplace is a great place to meet respectable women. However, you have to be the kind of person who doesn't make it awkward if it doesn't work out. Some of the greatest girls I've dated were from work.
Permalink Reply by TishTash on January 21, 2009 at 10:16pm
"Yay!" for like the first couple of weeks. But then you have to sit in a conference room for an uber serious meeting with that person, and my inability to keep a straight face suddenly makes it into a resounding "Nay! You freakin fool! Nay!"
Permalink Reply by Wendy on January 23, 2009 at 1:13pm
It kinda depends. Would you work close together? Because if you date then things don't turn out right and you guys break up, now you have to see him around? That could be awkward.

I've only once dated a co-worker. He wasn't even technically that 'cause he worked on another floor and I rarely saw him at work. We're not together anymore but still work in the same place, I rarely see him so there's no possibility of running into each other and how awkward that would be.
Permalink Reply by Katie on January 23, 2009 at 4:38pm
I've slept with a coworker (did not turn out well), and fooled around with a few others (still friends, turned out fine).
I work freelance, so I did recently date a guy who also works freelance in the same industry (we only just KIND OF were coworkers on our last contracts, we met at the wrap party, didn't work closely with each other at all during the show). We haven't had to work together since then, and I'm not sure if it'll end up being awkward if we do have to work together again.
I imagine it will be at least a little bit awkward, because I've suggested that we could still be friends, whereas he has not really kept up his end of that. I'm thinking it might be odd next time we see each other. Too bad though, I really kinda liked him.
Permalink Reply by Angela on January 26, 2009 at 1:20pm
It can go either way. I think it's a sticky situation. My friend got involved with a co-worker and they broke up after having a very serious relationship. (FYI: We all worked together) But when they broke up it was horrible and there was tension and I did lose a friend in the process. Because she was my best friend who was dating the guy. But you can't help who you fall in love with and that person just might be at work. For me, I don't like to mix my business with pleasure because that really blurs the line. And sometimes you bring work into your relationship when it need not be there. It's just one of those situations where you have to evaluate it to see if it's worth it or not.
Permalink Reply by Tabitha on January 26, 2009 at 3:39pm
I'm dating a co-worker now, but we weren't working together when we started dating. We work in different departments, so we never have to deal with any sort of hierarchy and, frankly, we don't interact much at all during work hours. But I think that even if he was in my department, we'd be fine. Our circumstance is unique, though...so I dunno if this is helpful at all. :-P
Permalink Reply by Lady Lazarus on January 26, 2009 at 4:45pm
I dated a co-worker once; it was in a retail bookstore, but nevertheless, he was still a co-worker, and there was still a corporate policy against fraternization like that. When corporate found out, he quit because they required one of us to stop working, and he already had another job. We were together for 7 years; however, I'd really have to say that I wasn't 'in' the relationship for about 4 of those years. He lost his other job, got depressed, didn't do anything but sit on his couch for like a year and a half until his unemployment ran out, and he went and got a retail job that he hated and that made him more depressed. He became a miserable human being, and I was never happy when I was with him. In retrospect, I realize that the only reason I stayed was because he used to say things like "You're my only chance at marriage and children at this point" because he was about 14 years older than me, and he said it took him 4-5 years to find someone even 'worth' dating every time he broke up with somebody.

In the beginning, when he was still at the store, we had a common bond, obviously, and that flourished into a friendship, which I mistook for love. But after a little while, when he became unemployed, the vast difference in our interests and our personalities was really enhanced. I mean, what does a 19-year-old know about unemployment and not being able to pay the mortgage and thinking about children? We were in different places in life, and working together only masked that fact.

I'd say that in many cases co-worker relationships can work out well, but in many other cases, it doesn't work out because the only thing you really have in common is your workplace. The workplace bond is a strong one and can mask all kinds of other problems.
Permalink Reply by Mina Slater on January 26, 2009 at 7:06pm
I dated a co-worker at a resort that ended with drama because he tried to date me and another co-worker at the same time and actually thought no one would find out. Then I dated a co-worker at another job...well actually he was actually my boss at first...just not my boss anymore. We ended up working in different departments which was a good thing because I would've hated for anyone to think I got special treatment. It was a rather large company and we kept our private lives to ourselves so gossip and rumors didn't really get buzzing. I ended up getting a better job closer to home so I am not at that company any longer but we are still going strong 2 years later. I think it depends on the people involved and probably being in a large company working in different departments helps. My sister and her fiance have worked at the same company for 4 years now...again large company.
Permalink Reply by Lacey Bean on January 26, 2009 at 9:12pm
I so would not. My office especially is young people, so everyone hangs out with each other, and gossip spreads like wildfire. I know who slept with who and most of it happened before I started working there!
Permalink Reply by Michael Chong on February 8, 2009 at 10:12pm
my opinion is don't shit where you sleep. there's plenty of fish in the sea to see.

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