The Bloggers With The Most To Say
Dating Websites
Okay, so my roomie's bf and I were discussing this today as an eharmony.com commercial played on the television. He thinks that people only use those websites to get laid, I on the other hand like to think that people actually want to meet someone through it. Or at least land a date that they don't have to work very hard for. I've joked that I would join one of these sites if I'm still single in like 3 more years (I don't do well with the guys) and I'm kinda serious about it. How do you feel about them?
Replies to This Discussion
-
Permalink Reply by Akirah on -
I think it depends on the site. My friend joined eHarmony two weeks ago (honest, it was a friend and not me...I have a boyfriend...though I don't really find it embarrassing, so I guess it doesn't even matter) and it was a pretty grueling process to get in. She had to answer pages upon pages of questions in order for the site to analyze her and assign her appropriate matches. I feel like if someone was just in it for the sex, they'd opt for Craigslist, rather than taking five surveys and filling out an extensive profile. I'm not sure what match.com or other online personal sites are like, but I can definitely say that eHarmony isn't for the horny pervert. It takes too much time!
-
Permalink Reply by The Sassy Sexpert on -
They really screen their applicants. Sadly, my ex-fiance was denied by Eharmony! (I'm guessing if they sense someone has depression they don't really want to add them into their group because then, the chances of successful matching may be lower)
-
Permalink Reply by L.L. on -
Never used one - but my BF and me always joke about signing up and seeing if we get matched!
-
Permalink Reply by Lacey Bean on -
I used to be on Yahoo Personals a lot, and met two of my ex-boyfriends that way. My current boyfriend, I actually met randomly on MySpace (so not as creepy as it sounds!)
Honestly, there are going to be creeps on every dating site.. you just have to be careful with who you talk to, who you actually meet, etc.
-
Permalink Reply by L.L. on
-
Just like there are creeps in every bar, restaurant, library... any real world place you can meet people...
-
Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Sorry to break it to you, but I would have to agree with your roomie's boyfriend. I know a lot of guys who signed up on an online dating site strictly to get laid. Pathetic, yes, but I can tell you it happens. However, I tend to believe that while many (notice I didn't say all) guys are looking strictly to get laid, I think most women on there probably want to find a genuine relationship...or at the very least, a decent date.
Personally, I would never use an online dating site. It's just not my thing. I've heard plenty of horror stories, but I've also heard of a few great connections made thru sites like Match.com, etc. So I suppose meeting someone online may have just as good of a chance in working out as opposed to meeting them in the old traditional way.
-
Permalink Reply by debi on -
I think you hit the nail on the head - and I don't mean to be sexist here at all. A LOT of men are on there to get laid. A LOT of women are looking for a real relationship.
Now, I think there are some women looking just to get laid, and some men looking for relationships, too...
But I joined match - half as a joke - a few years ago. Overall: good experience. I was able to weed guys out pretty well by chatting, and then deciding if I wanted to meet. I did end up going out with a guy for a few weeks, ended badly because he was an ass, but that's not match's fault.... I wouldn't do it again, personally, because I find that meeting people through hobbies works better for me. Oh and cause I found the love of my life already. Haha But, god forbid, if I ever was single again, I wouldn't. But I don't judge those who do, because it works for some.. just as long as you are careful and aware there are creeps out there..
-
Permalink Reply by Emmie on -
Im giving a dating site a go right now and no one really catches my attention tbh, I think most are either strange or just want to get laid.. not saying theres not genuine people out there, just not many.
-
Permalink Reply by Mindy on -
I've never used one, nor been tempted to, and I'd likely be skeptical of utilizing it to meet men anyway. There's only so much you can put on paper and so much "matching" you can virtually have done to determine if you're "right" together anyway. Then there's an awkward first date, blind date for the most part. I just, it doesn't actually sound fun at all... Could be just me though who thinks that way.
-
Permalink Reply by JackoStain on -
dating site's will welcome all sort of people, the good, the bad and the indifferent.
personally paying to meet someone does not pencil out to me, there is a theory that says opposite attract, so how does these sites decide if two people will be compatable. Can someone please educate me on that?
-
Permalink Reply by jess on -
I actually met my boyfriend on a free dating site without super-high standards (OkCupid). We have been together for almost a year now, are living together and are making plans for a future together. He's actually not the first guy I've met and kind of built a relationship with on a site like that, but the first was actually long-distance and didn't work out for that fact.
While there are a lot (read: a LOT) of skeevy people -- not just guys -- on them, especially the free ones, if you know where and how to look, and don't mind being pretty patient, you can find the normal people. Just like real life, when you first come across someone, you won't always know if they're weird. You may have to actually talk to and subsequently block a few weirdos before you find someone worth meeting in person.
My tips: learn when you're being sent a form letter ("dear miss, blah blah blah"), if something sounds too good to be true it probably isn't, talk to someone for a while before you actually meet them in person, know that you never have to respond to a message and just be smart about it, use common sense.
Dating online can actually be really helpful and beneficial, especially if you're in a situation like I was (I don't drive, so finding someone in LA was a pain) or if you're not the kind of person to really put yourself out in social scenes (I'd much rather encounter a skeezy guy online than a skeezy guy in real life -- real life doesn't have a 'block' button).
© 2012 Created by Lisa.
