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Do you ever feel completely left out?
Ok, so I'm an oilfield wife, and have been for the last 3 years. My husband is an engineer and often works in the gulf of Mexico. So for the last 3 years, I have been trying to connect with other women in my situation, to no avail. I just can't. I have nothing in common with them. I'm sure you're thinking, "Well, Heather, just MOVE ON." But I can't, I need some kind of support system with these women, so that I can commiserate about how much it sucks sometimes! But when they personally blame Obama for the lack of drilling (which is completely and utterly ILLOGICAL) and hope and pray for gas prices to go to $5.00 a gallon, I just want to give up. I feel left out of a sisterhood that I have every right to be a part of. Ugh.
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Permalink Reply by Jaime on -
I do often times feel completely left out. More so at work than anywhere else.
There are two other women who work in my department, both of them in their mid-40's. And they're always talking to each other about their problems and stress. They're full of inside jokes, and though I know they don't mean to leave me out, they simply don't think of me. It's hard, being the only person not included - especially when there's a recession and job security is non-existent. Sometimes going to work is uncomfortable, and sometimes I feel very alone.
Most days I don't mind. There are a few days, though, where I wish I didn't have to go to work and face the loneliness. The loneliness that, in itself, is stressful. And people tell me 'It's just work' and 'You're only there 8 hours a day', but it's where I spend 5 days a week. It's not something I can just ignore.
I'm sorry you feel so left out, yours is a situation where it must be hard not having anyone who understands what you're going through. :/
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Permalink Reply by Heather on -
Wow, that really sucks! Sometimes it's definitely worse when people are just indifferent to you, instead of flat out not liking you. They may think that since you are younger, you wouldn't be interested in what they talk about. Have they been there longer than you? Maybe they are just so used to each other, it doesn't occur to them that they are leaving you out. Maybe bring in a plate of homemade cookies or a photo album from a recent trip, and just try to engage them in conversation about that. Often, people don't even realize how their behavior affects others. 40 hours a week is a lot to deal with that, and feeling uncomfortable at work is completely horrible. I hope things improve for you hon!
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