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I want to do a good thing.
I am thinking about donating my eggs.
It would be so great to help a couple have a child.
I mean, I don't see anything wrong with it. It would be so rewarding.
Do you think egg donation is good, or bad?
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Permalink Reply by Punky Jo on -
Interesting topic.
My biggest set back to donating my eggs would be that I wouldn't be able to separate from the fact that those would be my children. And I would want to see them and raise them. So I don't think it would be a healthy thing for me to do.
But I think it's a good option for those who want to help and those who want children.
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Permalink Reply by Cassie on -
I'm sure if you're serious about pursuing this, you've done your research and looked up the risks, but I haven't seen anyone here mention the fact that donating your eggs can increase your chance of getting ovarian cancer. If anyone in your family has had ovarian cancer, I'd say absolutely don't do it. I would never do it because my grandmother had it and died a really painful death from it-- ovarian cancer is a very violent cancer that few can beat. Not to be morbid and rain on anyone's parade, but it's definitely something to take into consideration when going under a fairly serious procedure. Even if the cancer hasn't occured in your family, I'd still mention this to my gyno and see what he/she says about the risks.
Just my two cents!
Cassie
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
I seriously considered doing it... if only for the money, and the fact that I'm not really too bothered if I have kids or not, but I'm pretty certain I'd be great breeding stock. Unfortunately, I don't qualify- my blood pressure's too high and I smoke.
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Permalink Reply by Heather F on -
i've always thought it was a great idea. there are so many people who can't have kids on their own, and i think that people who are willing to donate eggs are incredible. i've thought about doing it, but i have a serious fear of medical procedures (especially if needles are involved!) and i'm not sure i'd be able to go through the actual procedure.
the adoption argument is a good one, as there are so many kids who need homes and caring parents, but i understand why couples would prefer to have their own child and go through the pregnancy process. there are even people who choose to do both, by using donors for one child and then adopting any additional children.
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Permalink Reply by leilani on -
I was approached a few years ago by someone from an "elite" agency where people want eggs with certain qualities, sat scores, achievements, etc. etc. and the whole thing really creeped me out a lot. It's great in terms of financial benefits, but I also think there would be something terribly unnatural about SELLING my potential offspring to freaks who want designer babies.
the whole thing really just freaks me out to be honest.
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Permalink Reply by Harley Jane on -
I think it's good, but I couldn't do it.
Just the thought of a kid running around out there that looks a bit like me... No. I couldn't.
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Permalink Reply by Katie on -
I don't really have a problem with it from an ethical standpoint, but I do think the health aspect hasn't been hit on enough here. You should really do more investigation into the potential health risks of egg donation. There not only can be serious side effects in the short-term from egg donation, but in the long-term it is possible that it contributes to breast or ovarian cancer...or things we don't know about yet. Much of the long-term health effects are still unknown, because it's a relatively new process and there hasn't been opportunity to do long-term research.
Wanting to help a family have a baby is noble, and surely the money doesn't hurt in making it appealing. I've always been extremely skeptical about a process that ultimately involves pumping your body with hormones and interfering with your natural cycle, and what that means in the long-term for your body.
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Permalink Reply by S.I.F. on -
Katie makes a good point. My health issues started about 6-8 months after my second donation, and I am now completely infertile myself. I donated my eggs to 2 different couples when I was healthy and had no issues at all, and now, only 2 years later; I just did my first round of IVF and failed.
Don't get me wrong; I will never (ever) regret donating my eggs. I feel strongly that the children who were brought into this world are with the families they were meant for. But, when I donated I never in a million years thought that I would ever have issues of my own. I was young, and healthy, and every doctor I saw said I was reproductively perfect.
What happened to me likely couldn't happen to everyone (it's believed now that I always had endometriosis and just had been controlling it with the birth control pill without realizing - all the hormones I went on to donate made it become extremely aggressive though), but I never would have thought it would happen to me either. And for me, with the timeline as well as the conversations I've since had with doctors, there is no doubt that my donations exasperated my condition to the point it is now. If I hadn't donated, I likely would have had much more time to figure this all out.
When I donated, one of the questions I was asked was how I would feel if I did one day become infertile myself. I responded then that no matter what, I would never regret helping out an infertile family achieve their goal. Thankfully for me that answer has remained the same even when faced with the worst case scenario, but I would definitely urge anyone who donates to strongly consider how they would feel if something like that happened to them.
The hormones are a big deal and they are hard on your body (I just did them all again for a 3rd time with this IVF round). You really do need to be prepared for the fact that very little is known about the long term effects of some of these drugs, and that there are actually donors out there who do go on to have issues of their own. I'm not the only one something like this happened to. It does happen....
All that said, it really is a beautiful think to do for another person. Just educate yourself and make sure you're prepared to take on the good and the bad.
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Permalink Reply by Erin McCarthy on -
IS it true you have to already have viable offspring as proof of your fertility? Cuz if not, I will shell that shit out like an admirable paycheck in the making. I mean, I would do it for the others. Those poor, sad, rich--really, really rich others...who can't have kids and won't adopt them because they want to grow their own...sort of.
Just playin
It really is an ethical dilemma on some level. Little half youz running around that you willfully take no responsibility for growing up in an environment that is nearly at carrying capacity. But overall, helping others and getting a fuck ton of money--it's still a fuck ton, right? Is more worth it than not. Does it hurt I wonder. I am kind of a wimp...
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