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Have you ever lost a best friend?
I'm talkin', a real best friend...best friend you NEVER thought you'd be without? My best friend of almost 15 years is no longer a friend and it hurts like heck. I was blogging about it today and wondered how others have dealt with similar situations.
So tell me...have you ever lost a best friend?
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Permalink Reply by Honest Bitch on -
Yeah, I've 2 best friends I've lost. one because I moved half way across the world We we're best friends since kindergarten. We still speak but we're not close at all anymore. And I lost my best college friend a few years ago, that one really stung. We had a big fight and that was it. We deleted each other on every thing and haven't spoke since. We were so close for so long and in a blink its gone.
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Permalink Reply by Anani on -
Omg I JUST posted about this earlier today - http://2dimesplus.wordpress.com/2011/12/15/harsh-life-lessons-the-l.... It's hard to say how to deal with it because I'm still dealing with. In your case, I guess you guys are definitely done, but with us, the water has just been very murky for a long while. I've tried being completely honest and upfront about how I feel...I've tried to completely detach and act indifferent toward the situation so it wouldn't hurt me too badly...I've tried to go out of my way to try to take on the task of doing a lot of the "fixing" myself...and now I'm sort of at the point of more so genuine indifference. It sucks, but...I just try to treasure the good years for what they were, focus on the positive of the other friendships and relationships in my life, and just let her do her, whatever that means...and, most importantly, try not to take it personally. It def. does suck, though :-/.
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Permalink Reply by Akirah on -
Ya. The process of getting over it all has been crazy hard, even though I know I'm better off.
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Permalink Reply by Tori on -
I've lost a few close friends. The first was my best friend in high school. We broke up over a guy. (Petty, I know.) We tried to reconnect in college, but by that time, we'd grown too far apart, and neither of us was interested in forcing something that obviously wasn't going to work.
The second was a close friend in college. We broke up over sorority drama. I quit the sorority shortly after, and tried to reconnect with her a few years later, but my efforts were never reciprocated.
My current best friend and I have had several falling outs: Once in college when I called her then-boyfriend out for being a douchebag, and neither he nor she agreed wth me, and once just before her wedding - at twenty-three - to a guy who I felt that I barely knew. But she and I reconcile every time, even though our experiences and life tracks differ. We still remain close and spend time together, and I truly consider her family - someone I can fight with endlessly, but still love unconditionally.
A good friendship is like any other relationship. It takes work. And you BOTH have to be willing to put that in. With a new baby and new marriage, she may not have the time or energy to also nourish a friendship. In the meantime, relish in the solid relationships you have with other friends and your family to help get you through it. Maybe you'll come back to each other eventually, and maybe you won't. But you have to move forward.
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Permalink Reply by Cherie on -
I started the year 2011 with two best friends.
I have neither of those friends now.
In fact, that loss has been the number one reason why 2011 was such a rocky year for me. A loss of purpose and meaning. I blogged a lot about it, most notably here. It's been weird, but life does go on. I've just been immersing myself in things I'm passionate about and trying to figure out my future. Aiming to be positive and working on a consistent follow-through of that positivity is super important.
Sorry you lost your best friend. I know how much it hurts, and I hope things look better for you.
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Permalink Reply by Kris on -
A few times... Yes. Two stand out. I poured it all onto my blog a few years ago, Fragments of Friendship...
http://becauseorwhynot.blogspot.com/2010/07/fragments-of-friendship...
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Permalink Reply by Edwin on -
so sorry to hear about that !
but to answer your question: yes. very recently even.. Someone who i thought was my best friend for almost 12 years got married and didn't tell me about it. Had to read about it on his girl's facebook.
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Permalink Reply by Ally Gregory-Moore on
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I "lost" my best friend for 2 years once. It was a miserable experience. Luckily, we reconnected when I got married. We both realized how stupid we were and now refer to it as "the dark times."
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