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Hey, Girls in relationships.... What is your opinion on your guy looking at porn?
Just wondering. I'm not a fan and I ranted a little about it on my blog. The comments I got from women were pretty much the same but there weren't many. It just makes me wonder if all women think that way. What do you think? Does it bother you when you find porn on your guys computer? Do you watch it with him? What's up?
Tags: Porn
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Permalink Reply by Margaret on -
I really don't care as long as it's not creepy (i.e. child porn or gay porn) or addictive for the guy- but I think a little curiosity is a good thing. I understand it can make people feel a little insecure, but it depends on how you choose to perceive it. You could get upset about it and let it be a huge thing or you can just embrace it for what it is. Sexual curiosity is a healthy thing :)
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Permalink Reply by Sam Huizinga on -
agree.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
I third that.
I know there are some "porn addicts" out there and they have serious problems, but I have to believe that the majority of people viewing porn is rather harmless. And I understand people who say it degrades women, but many men (myself included), are not having some deep thought about how it does or doesn't depict the pornstars. I'm simply going with the mindset of..."Look, a boobie! That turns me on."
These types of porn viewers are able to maintain very healthy and happy relationships. Porn does not affect their lives. It's simply something fun to watch every now and then. Nothing more, nothing less. And if your boyfriend watching porn REALLY bothers you, then why not make him a sexy little video or take some sexy little photos of yourself for him? Believe me, he will love it! That's the best porn he could ever get and probably the best present you'll ever give him!
Bottom line, it's porn people. Don't try to overanalize it. It's bad acting and a showcase of skin. Or at least that's how I see it.
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
Clearly you're right. Most people watching porn are not thinking about whether or not it's harmful to women or about how the women featured are being treated off camera as well as on. If they took a second to think about those things, I think (hope) it would be a lot more difficult to enjoy watching.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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If I were to watch a woman clearly being degraded, to me it would be more than just a turnoff. I would find it revolting!
Although, nobody is forcing her to degrade herself by being a pornstar. She's allowing herself to be degraded whether it's happening on camera or off. So in a way I feel for her, but in a way I don't. It's her choice to be in that field and she can find another profession.
And as someone on here mentioned, I think most people who have a problem with porn feel that way because of their own insecurities and low self-esteem about their body. Therefore they don't want to watch some pornstar with a killer body performing under a camera filter with the light oh just right. It's understandable.
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on
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While I can't speak for every person who has a problem with porn, my concern really doesn't stem from my own insecurities about my body. Looking at porn stars doesn't make me feel any worse about my figure than looking at most Hollywood actresses might. Most of the time, I'm able to convince myself I don't look half bad naked.
And while you are right that no one is forcing these women to perform on camera, many well-known porn stars have had a history of sexual abuse, so that concerns me.
For me, it often comes down to the question of would you be ok with knowing that your sister or daughter or someone you cared about was being treated the way women are treated in most porn?
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Permalink Reply by Sara Nipples on -
I agree that it would be gross to watch a woman be degraded. I can't even watch porn where the woman looks miserable the whole time. That's just not sexy at all.
And I agree with the fact that a lot of people don't like it because it makes them feel insecure. I'm always cool with watching porn with my fiancee because it's fun and sexy. But when I'm having a fat/insecure/ugly day, I don't want to watch it, and it makes me feel insecure when he's watching it.
But then again, we buy the cheaper porn in the "miscellaneous" section so most of the girls are cute, but they don't make me feel self conscious. I would agree with the poster above me that the women in Hollywood probably make me more self consious than porn stars.
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Permalink Reply by Whitney on -
I like watching porn with my boyfriend too. I agree that it is fun and sexy. We have a couple of movies from the cheaper section and a couple from the mainstream porn from major production companies. (Vivid, Digital Playground, Wicked). Those movies are a whole lot better, quality, and quantity. It makes me not want to buy any other porn than that.They are pretty expensive, so we don't buy those too often. Plus, you can download it for free. Sometimes porn stars aren't even pretty, and not all of them have huge fake boobs. I don't really feel self conscious when I look at porn stars, because they are not real. They are made of plastic.
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie on -
I could care less if my boyfriend looks at porn. I think it's completely normal and healthy.
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