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High school sweetheart?
Marrying your high school sweetheart: Good idea or BAD idea??
Has anyone here married their high school sweetheart? Are you still together? Would you recommend it?
-Sarah
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Permalink Reply by Kisekae on -
I was with my highschool sweetheart for about 6 years, and although at the time it seemed perfect, it turned out to be a bad idea. I think it can work out for some people but for us we spent so much time together that we never got a chance to grow as individuals and became stuck.
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Ann on -
I'm torn on the subject personally. But I can tell you that my cousin married the girl he had dated continuously since the 7th grade. They have been married 11 years, have 2 very well-behaved children, and are a happy suburban couple. Sometimes I think that they must secretly hate each other like the stereotypical suburban couple but I never see any of that. They seem to be genuinely happy!
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Permalink Reply by Carrie Barr on -
I have two friends who are getting married who started dating in jr. or sr. year of high school. Personally I think it's a bad idea and that they are getting married mostly because they have just been together for so long and are scared of dating anyone else. But of course I can't really know, but it does look like that from the outside.
I wouldn't knock those who do marry their high school sweetheart though, but I wouldn't recommend it right out of high school. Definitely would wait a few years and live in the real world for a bit first.
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Permalink Reply by Alianna on -
I'm still kind of with my high school sweetheart - I call him Thor on my website. We've both dated other people though. I think it depends on the people. I've always loved the idea of marrying someone you started dating when you were in high school (we were 18), but I hear it's not always a good thing.
I know a couple (my parents' age) who've been together, happily, since they were 14! That freaks me out a bit. My friend is marrying his high school sweetheart tomorrow. They've never been with anyone else, even just dating, and I think it's a horrible idea. I don't think their marriage will fail though.
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Permalink Reply by Whitney on -
I married mine. We started dating when I was 14 & he was 15 & got married 5.5 years later. I graduated college while we were married (he was already out) and we got a dog, moved out of state, and bought a house. Right now, we have no debt except our house so we almost never argue about money, which I think is usually a big area for arguments when you get married young. We've been married over 2 years & we're still very happy & very much in love. I know 2 years is not that long in the grand scheme of things, but for us, it's working really well.
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Permalink Reply by Punky Jo on -
I think if two people are really meant to be and they find each other in high school then great! But I think it's dangerous if two people get married out of fear that they'll never find anyone else.
But I find it hard to give this question a solid yes or no answer. Sometimes it's good sometimes it's bad, depends on the relationship =)
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Permalink Reply by Tyler Sutherland on -
My high school sweetheart and I were together for years. We broke up when we went away to college - her to University of Illinois to fuck everything in sight, me to Southern Illinois University Carbondale to cure me of my ridiculous obsession with love. When I realized what my professors told me was true, they could not teach me, or anyone, to be a writer, I dropped out and moved to LA for awhile.
Years later I moved back to Peoria, impregnated a teenager after a one night stand that lasted far too long...when that train wreck finally came apart, the high school sweetheart was there again to cushion the fall. We got married.
She moved to Columbus, OH for grad school and I followed. When I arrived I realized the woman I married had disappeared the second she got out of Peoria...never to return. Things were hard for me in Columbus and she was not supportive. We didn't last long.
I moved back to Peoria and the divorce papers arrived a couple months ago.
Two of my close friends from high school married their sweethearts. Similar results.
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Permalink Reply by Jewely Hoxie on -
I think its up to the relationship. My high school sweetheart's (we are no longer together, in case your wondering, good thing for me) grandparents were high school sweethearts and are still together and are very in love. The husband still does grand gestures for her all the time. Happy people. It can work out. It just depends on who you are. Personally, I want to explore more. And I would suggest the same to other, I think its a good idea for people to experience what the world has to offer. But if things are great, like really great. Then I say go for it, live out the love story!
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