How do you deal with being/getting divorced at 24?

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Permalink Reply by Erin McCarthy on March 8, 2011 at 5:36am

Fuck that shit. You need to meet some more loyal chicks. I have never dated someone that my friends did, even a dude that they just had their eye on--they're are so many. Your friends are obviously intimidated by your hotness.This is a dark part, but there's gunna be light again!

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Permalink Reply by Jordan on March 8, 2011 at 5:54am

Seriously, friends don't do that. I've had some crappy friends who I've cut out of my life for various reasons but none of them ever tried to get with my boyfriend. I mean, how do you even do that? Don't you have some kind of internal alarm ringing warning you to not be a whore and ruin your friendship? I'm with Erin, move to a new place, delete them from your phone and facebook, including the husband (you don't want to be tempted to spy on him, it'll just hurt more), and start a new life.

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Permalink Reply by Hannah J on March 8, 2011 at 6:46am

That's absolutely appalling. You *cannot* call anybody who does that to you a 'friend'. That's just not something a friend does. That's something an arch-nemesis does.

I think I would fucking flip and slit a bitch's throat if she ever did such a thing. I honestly cannot fathom how people can do it to their 'friends'. Sometimes friends that they've known since forever!

People just suck.

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Permalink Reply by Hannah J on March 8, 2011 at 6:45am

Annnnd this is why I'll never get married. You just can *never know* how somebody is going to turn out in the end, or how they're going to change when things go bad. You can *never know*.

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Permalink Reply by Emily on March 9, 2011 at 5:08am

you can say that.. not all marriages fail! My mum and dad were married for 20 years before he passed away!

 

You can live life afraid, all experiences are worth it whether good or bad... if you dont go through them you will never learn.

x

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Permalink Reply by Kellie on March 10, 2011 at 4:55pm

I agree.. my parents have been married for 30 years, they got married at 17. Not all marriages fail.. it's up to the couple to make it work. You can't just get married and expect things to be peaches and cream for there on out. (I'm not saying that you did that, Emily.) Both halves have to work at it.. 

Unfortunately one half can't control what the other does.. and it's a shame. I'm really sorry to hear about your divorce, Emily!

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Permalink Reply by Jonathan Manor on March 8, 2011 at 10:45am

hey emily, you're hot, you shouldn't care about some guy who breaks up with you, because you, and i'm pretty sure everyone you know, know how incredibly gorgeous you are. So my advice is that you stop caring about all this pointless drama and move on. Most men suck. There's a good chance you hooked a loser.

:)

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Permalink Reply by Emily on March 9, 2011 at 5:08am

Thanks:) Made me smile.

x

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Permalink Reply by Emily on March 10, 2011 at 8:11am

So new development... he wants to get back together, it makes everything sooooo much harder! I can help but think its because he wants a visa?

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Permalink Reply by Kelli Hale on March 10, 2011 at 4:39pm

Hmm... well you are not just his ticket into the country. You are a person with feelings that he tore apart over something trivial. I would say that you need to take your time before you make a decision. Like a couple of months at least. If you do decide to get back together make him work for it!! You tell him that he hurt you, and you lay out everything on the table that you want to see happen in your relationship. Don't back down. If he loves you, and just made a mistake he'll do whatever it takes to get you back.

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Permalink Reply by Lexi on March 10, 2011 at 4:43pm

tell him to find some other unsuspecting victim to inflict himself upon for a visa. Once a liar, always a liar. Once a cheat, always a cheat. You're better off without him- and once the words "I want a divorce" come out, they can NEVER be taken back. Those aren't words that you say in jest or by accident. Things can never go back to being the same and you'll always hear them in the back of your head. And even if you can look past the hurt and the anger, and the damage that has been caused, the foundations will never be as strong.

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Permalink Reply by Ginny on March 11, 2011 at 10:37am

I work for a divorce attorney so I deal with divorce every day.

 

Here is my advice/thoughts

 

Don't try to do this youreslf.  Get an attorney.  A lot of people think that they can just go to the court house and get it done but it's not that easy and having someone that can handle the paperwork is one less stress for you.

 

Surround yourself with supportive friends and family and remember you're not alone. 

 

Best of luck!  This is a sucky situation.

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