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How do you know when you're ready to move in with your Meaningful Other?
For those of you who live with your boyfriend/girlfriend (or have lived with someone at some point) how did you know you were ready to move in with them?
I'm writing a freelance article about this & just wanted to get other people's perspectives.
Ie. In your opinion, what are good reasons/bad reasons to move in with someone?
Any feedback on this would be greatly appreciated! Thank you!! xo
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Permalink Reply by leilani on -
bah this is the worst. i have been pressured about this for a while now and at first (i.e., before my lease was done) I just kind of went along with it, whilst verbalizing that I really didn't feel ready - and now, I must deal with constant moodiness due to my lover's bitterness over the fact that I strongly feel we are NOT ready for this. It is really not having a good effect on our relationship/my faith in it. Booooooo.
Sorry, rambling - to answer the question, I feel like it's more of being comfortable with the idea than having a ton of reasons to do it. In short - I think you're ready when you aren't actively feeling unready. (Yah, sometimes I make up words?)
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Permalink Reply by Mei on -
That's true. If you don't feel ready, IT'S NOT WORTH IT. Living together is just too much work if it's not right. I've lived with two guys, ever, and after the first one I swore I would never do it again. (obviously that wasn't the case) :)
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Permalink Reply by Skinny Dip on -
I agree- If you don't feel ready its NOT WORTH IT. If one person isn't ready, its going to be a miserable experience for both of you.
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Permalink Reply by Sam Huizinga on -
I decided to move in with my bf when he got a job out in california. I was already kinda living at his families house and working in the city so it made sense. He got the job and asked me to come along. It was at our 3 year mark and it has made our relationship stronger than it has ever been. We do plan to get married soon. Moving in together just kinda made sense.. we knew going into it that it could ruin our relationship, but I am so thankful it did the opposite.
He's my best friend, it's amazing to come home and see and talk to my best friend daily. to wake up next to him and to help each other out. We never run out of things to say. It helps that we both work a lot and have good time apart.. I do really miss him on the weekends when I'm working and he's home alone. Our time is usually spent together in the late evenings after work, like right now.
NOW.. i wouldn't move in with someone if they pressured me. ((ie: the hills... the start of the speidi drama.)) or if it were early on in the relationship... you know.. that honeymoon stage. but that's just me.
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Permalink Reply by Leslie Abbott on -
We were together for a year before we moved in together, but we were basically living together from the time we first started dating (I would stay at his house 3+ days a week). It was just easier to make the move.
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Permalink Reply by Eric the BeehiveHairdresser on -
IMHO, If you would either propose to or say yes to a proposal from your significant other then you are ready to move in with them.
Bad reasons, financial, significant other is homeless/kicked out of their place, green card/citizenship, etc. They are great short term, but often lead to the break up too.
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Permalink Reply by Jpeazy on -
When we got married..lol. Living together isn't something I would do with a bf. I think it complicates things, and should you break up, I can't even imgine what that's like!
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer V. on -
I was living with my ex for two years then we decided it didn't work out. He had the main ownership so I simply moved into my own place close to home. It was weird moving out but it was for the best. Although, if it had been a bad breakup, I don't want to imagine how that would work.
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Permalink Reply by Sara Nipples on -
My lease was up on my apartment, and we were together all the time as it was. I missed him all day, every day. (And that really hasn't changed much.) We never wanted to be apart so moving in together was what was best for us.
Now, has it been easy since then? Hell no. Not even close. Moving in together complicates things BIG time, and it needs to be a serious decision where the couple can sit down and talk about it before they decide for sure.
Moving in together changes a lot of things in a relationship, but if you're in it for the long haul, it's totally worth it.
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Permalink Reply by Barbara on -
For me it was really simple. I was spending all my time at his house because I didn't want to be in my own house. Financially, it made sense too. I save around $400 a month living with him, which allowed me to get my new car when my old one finally died.
We wanted to take our relationship to the next level so moving in with him made sense.
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer V. on
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Living together isn't for everyone. For me, it just happened. He would come and visit then start staying over longer so it just made sense to move in. It is a lot of work, but totally worth it. It's been three years and we are looking for a house then get married. And you must give each other space even if it's in a tiny apartment. In a small space you are forced to work things out.
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Permalink Reply by Kelli on -
We had talked about the possibility of living together in the future. But then we realized the pickle we were in: we lived across town from one another, his daughter was about to start kindergarten, my son was going into third grade, and we were both adamant about not moving our kids from their schools once they've started.
So basically, we realized that if we ever wanted to move in together, it was "now or never". He could put his daughter in a kindergarten near his house, or move across town and put her into my son's school.
We're coming up on our first living-together anniversary.
Not very romantic, I know. LOL
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