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How do you meet new people IRL?
Because my husband is in the military we move a lot. I was reflecting on how difficult it is to make new friends at each place and how tired I am of settling for fake relationships with the wives of his co-workers. Everyone needs some friends of their own right?
So I'm wondering how do each of you meet new people and start new friendships in the real world?
So I'm wondering how do each of you meet new people and start new friendships in the real world?
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Permalink Reply by Jason Simone on -
I suppose this is easy for me right now, since I'm still in school. Between classes, student organizations, campus activities, parties, etc., I almost meet too many people to handle.
I'll be clueless once I graduate and possibly move somewhere new...
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Permalink Reply by Angie on -
I have no idea.
Jen and I have been working seasonal jobs since 2008, so we'd make friends and then the season would end and we'd go our way and they would go theirs.
Hopefully I don't sound cold, but I simply don't care that much about making friends in RL. I am a very social person, so when I do work, etc. I can make friends easily. But outside of work, I prefer to just hang out with Jen in the comfort of our own home - or if I do go out, I enjoy going out with her. Not a friend/group of friends. ^_^
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Permalink Reply by Kelsey on -
I was brainstorming this afternoon...a lot of the things on my list of aspirations include taking some classes; dance, cooking, etc. I'm sure that will be an opportunity. I've never been a big fan of making friends with co-workers. I don't really like mixing my business and personal life, it makes it too easy for the bad stuff to leak over. Relationships are such a funny thing. The majority of the time they just happen, of course there is upkeep, but there is little that needs to be done when you first meet a new friend.
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Permalink Reply by Coyote Tits on -
I have the same problem. In school it's no problem to make friends, outside of school it's so hard to meet people without feeling stupid
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Permalink Reply by Anthony Licari on -
Have confidence to talk to any stranger. Try this with people less attractive than you (seriously) they'll enjoy talking to someone who is physically more attractive and will help you build confidence with talking to strangers.
From there, listen and listen and listen and listen.
Mimic their body language, their vernacular, what their interests are, repeat what they say. If you do this right everyone will be more than happy to be your friend and you'll get to pick and choose who you want.
As far as places go well that's pretty simple. If you want to meet other people interested in hiking then you'll probably meet them while you're out hiking right?
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Permalink Reply by Martin S on -
Join groups that cater to your interests. There are running, hiking, camping clubs in every city. Same with book clubs, political groups, church groups, etc.
When I moved to San Francisco, I met people through the gym and through a co-ed adult kickball league that I joined.
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Edwards on -
I have noooo idea! I wish I had a bigger group of friends here. I recently moved about 30-45 minutes away from my friends and I wish I had people up my way to hang out with or just grab a coffee with.
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Permalink Reply by Kelsey on
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It's crazy what just a half hour's drive does to people! When I lived in England all my friends back home were "so excited" for me to live closer, but now they act like it's such a pain to drive the 30 minutes to my house. Of course, they expect me to do it all the time, but somehow it's different. WTF?
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Permalink Reply by Ginny on -
meetup.com is a good place to meet people with similar interests. It is hard though to meet new people when you're an adult.
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