The Bloggers With The Most To Say
How MI is TMI?
I love to blog (duh) and I love to journal. But where should I draw the line?
I read other blogs that are very personal, open and sometimes a little shocking. But I enjoy reading those blogs.
But when it comes to mine, I'm terrified to offer up any personal stories about struggles or pain or even my not-so-secret thoughts.
I'm opinionated and strong-willed, but emotional and heart-on-the-sleeve wearing. (I'm a gal, so what?) I'm afraid of the comments I'll get, or that someone will think I'm crazy or throwing a killer pity party. Or worse, that my mother (who always reads my blog) will think "Who is this kid?"
So, what are the limits? Can I talk about personal issues on my blog? I mean, it is my own blog.
Help.
xoxo-
Jen
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Permalink Reply by Ethony on -
Hell yes you can it is your blog!
It is up to you how comfortable you are with sharing your life and what you put on there but I say go for it. I blog about personal stuff but I change names and don't dish out everything. Some things are still private.
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Permalink Reply by Peppers on -
I enjoy reading very open blogs as well. I don't think that there is such a thing as too much info when it comes to personal blogs. That's why they're called "personal" right? I can really tell when someone isn't being their true self on their blog, and I usually won't follow. I only like blogs where people just tell it like it is without worrying what people will think. I mean, I discuss some pretty personal stuff on my blog that I wouldn't tell even my own best friend. My blog isn't open to my friends/family though, only people on 20sb, unlike yours, so I could see why you're apprehensive. That's why I don't let them read it! I want to be able to say whatever I want.
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Permalink Reply by Jen Chapman on -
Well, not to disappoint, but I've only written one personal post, to which I received NO comments (as opposed to my typical two or three ... shocking, I know), so maybe that's my sign that TMI is really TMI.
Then again, maybe I'll make up some heinous story and see how people react. :)
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
I think there's a fine line between what's sufficient and what's too much- and ultimately, that's up to you to decide. If you're one of those out there, life is an open book, will discuss anything, nothing you say or do shocks anyone who knows you personally (or, they're constantly wondering what shocking thing you're going to do next) types then by all means, talk about anything and everything you wish- if people don't like it, they don't have to read it. No one's holding a gun to their head and saying that they have to. If you tend to be a bit more secretive about your personal life in general, then people may find it shocking and may disapprove of it. I know I've written/revealed some out there stuff in the past but I do have a tendency to try and write it tactfully and find interesting metaphors for certain situations rather than outright laying it out there, blunt and raw. I don't do it often, but when I do I tend to get quite a good response!
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Permalink Reply by magnolia on -
i found my own way around the TMI thing. it's a two-fold strategy.
1) i never, ever, ever name names. i only give identifying details in LIMITED doses after the fact.
2) if there's something i really want to tackle on the blog, but i can't quite get up the nerve to do it, i drink three glasses of red wine before i blog it. three is the magic number for me; enough courage to get out what i want to say, enough filter to make sure it's done right.
doesn't work for everyone, but it's good for me...
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Permalink Reply by EmDottie on -
It's your blog my dear. Post whatever you feel. Just as long as you're willing to take full responsibility to what you put out there. Sometimes it is unnerving because you don't know who will be on the other end reading. But as long as you're comfortable with what you post then do you! :)
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Permalink Reply by Estelle Nagel on -
All my posts are TMI. People say it makes them feel better about themselves...and it also makes people reluctant from meeting me in real life, so it keeps the stalkers at bay.
www.lochessmonster.blogspot.com
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Permalink Reply by Oats on -
As long as you don't know your readers and your name is kept anonymous... then go for it!
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Permalink Reply by Christy on -
You absolutely can - what I have a problem with when reading a blog is when people write things complaining about their significant others. It's like in the movie Julie & Julia (not sure if you've seen it), Julie and her husband get into a fight and as he's storming out the door, he yells to her DON'T WRITE THIS IN YOUR BLOG. And it's true. If my boyfriend had a blog and we were to get into a fight and he posted all about it for everyone to read, I would be PISSED. And when I read blogs about people doing this exact same thing, I immediately stop reading. Yes, it's your blog, but that's what you have friends for. When I find myself in that position, I call someone, I don't blog about it. For me - that's where I draw the line, but only because it affects another person and could end up making things worse.
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Permalink Reply by Jen Chapman on
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I absolutely agree. I wouldn't / couldn't write about personal issues involving another person. That just screams drama and, well, there's enough of that to go around already.
Plus, it's just respectful to leave others' lives out of the public eye. If they wanted everyone to know their business, they'd have a blog and would post their story.
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