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So yesterday I rented the movie "Julie and Julia" and I must say was surprised I enjoyed it so much. There was a line in the movie that got me thinking... Julie mentioned that she hated her friends and what does that say about you... to hate your friends? Her friend (one who she didn't hate) was sitting right there and said that it was normal. That's it's normal to hate your friends. Julie's husband then chimes in to say he likes his friends, that men like their friends. And so it got me thinking... is it normal for a woman to secretly hate her friends?

I hate to admit that yes, I do hate some of my friends. Do you think this is normal? And how many of you too hate some of your friends?

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I'm not sure "hate" is the right word. Jealous perhaps, even envious. And, yes, unfortunately, sometimes I am. It kills me but I try to acknowledge it, not let it show in my actions and get over it as soon as possible.

I don't know if men feel the same way. Probably less than women, but I doubt they don't experience it at all.
i have a really hard time with my female friends. it seems that most of my female relationships are very superficial, surface value type of relationships. the ones that do go deeper tend to be a little more dramatic. the men in my life have a habit of being much more stable, constant friends. i think a lot of it just has to do with the nature of men and women. women tend to be more emotionally driven which i think gets in the way of things.
I totally just dealt with this on my blog. I realized I disliked ('hate' seems rather strong) some of the girls I was hanging out with so I decided to trim the drama, and I cut them out of my life.
I'm perfectly happy now. : )
I think it is normal to hate friends...I guess. I know a lot of people who hate or fight with their friends so it happens to everyone.
I have many levels of friends. I don't hate any of my true/good friends but I do have a roommate that I thought I wanted to be friends with but will weed out once she moves out. I can't ever see myself hating a friend for too long because I have no problem getting rid of people who do not fit in my life. I have great friends and am blessed to have them. I haven't always been able to say this.
I love all my friends immensely, however when I look back on past friendships I can't believe that I could have connected with some of those people. I often wonder how much I've changed, or whether it's just part of growing up..
i just saw that movie today too (and like you, i ended up liking it more than i thought i would!). funny, because when she said that line, it really stuck with me for some reason. i think there's a little truth to that...not that we women completely hate out friends, but maybe resent some of them a bit. i know i do. :P
I don't hate my friends.

But I do dislike a lot of girlfriends that I see on a semi-annual basis. Girls I went to high school with for example - I used to be good friends with them until we grew apart for various reasons and now feel obligated to stay in touch because we used to be so close.

I think if you try to have close relationships with people you no longer have anything in common with except history then you can easily start hating your friends. I know I would have - except I realized I didn't like this group of girls anymore and thus found more awesome girls who I had more in common with (not to say I don't still have friends I've been with since I was little, just not all of them).
I used to but since my group of friends has sort of separated themselves from each other by school or moving we get along a lot better. I used to have a lot of friend drama especially when my best friend died but I think everyone took a lesson from all the bull shit that was going on and decided to change for the better so now we get on each others nerves a lot less.

I do still hate certain tendencies though. Some things people say or the way they act are just "them", like that's just the way that so-and-so is. You just deal with it, and I'm sure people say the same thing about me.
I loved this movie, I thought it was so much better than the book.

Yes, unfortunately I do dislike some of my friends. I wouldn't say I hate them. Mainly the ones I dislike are people I'm only friends with because of a close mutual friend. Some days I hate them because they can be total bitches. (I'm sure I can be some days as well.)

I think it's normal because women are so competitive. I find myself comparing myself to strangers on the street thinking things like "well at least I don't wear trashy clothes like that." Most woman do this.

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