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Learning how to date like a man
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I recently blogged about how I need to start dating like a man to be more successful in dating. I'm too upfront and honest with my dating ways. I'm curious if anyone else plays the "game" that way and dates like a man? If so, what does dating like a man mean to you?
I recently blogged about how I need to start dating like a man to be more successful in dating. I'm too upfront and honest with my dating ways. I'm curious if anyone else plays the "game" that way and dates like a man? If so, what does dating like a man mean to you?
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Permalink Reply by Coyote Tits on -
I love this post and tried to leave a comment, but apparently your comments are disabled or something.
Anyways I'm sort of the same way, I'm totally honest with guys upfront and my male friends say I move to fast. I just don't want to waste my time on some guy that is only sort-of into me. But i guess the game is there for a reason right?
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Permalink Reply by Nycole on -
I accidentally clicked my comments off somehow. So sorry! They are back on :)
I totally agree with you though why waste time just be honest but apparently being honest is scary lol. I hate the game!
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Permalink Reply by leilani on -
I don't know if I date like a man, but I have been hassled by guys for "wasting their time," etc. which to me kind of sounds like something a girl would say.
I am not quick to get emotionally involved and dating is really more of a fun hobby for me than it is a major thing in which I invest myself. That is... until I met my current lover. However I am still feeling urges to see other people. You just need to have fun with it... I think girls maybe think there are unwritten rules to dating that guys are unaware of... because really there are no rules :)
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Permalink Reply by Nycole on
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You're totally right and I need to adapt to this way of thinking!! My friend says something similar..."dating is a way to see the city". I love it lol!
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Permalink Reply by Nycole on
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It's not about just being upfront, it's about a guy freaking if a girl says too much too quick or shows too much interest too quick. Men freak out lol. Don't be offended.
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Permalink Reply by Danaconda on -
Yeah I liked that entry a lot; tried to post a comment but couldn't.
I'm a dude, and I gotta say that lots of them pretend they want relationships just to get laid. Never underestimate the barbarism of most men. I can't stress that enough.
Yes, the chase is fun, and when a girl wears her heart out on her sleeve the chase is almost over before it begins. But that doesn't mean you should change your behavior - I would say a better way of phrasing it is to slightly alter it. Your ex gives decent advice, but try to find a middle ground. Though something tells me when the next guy comes along you'll probably be the same way, and I don't blame you. You can only be yourself, and I'm sure plenty of men have no problem with the way you conduct yourself. You just haven't met one yet, and neither have I. Wait, I'm not gay...I mean woman. Wheeew.
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Permalink Reply by Nycole on
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You're totally right. Alter but not change.
I think the problem is my ex who I was with for 2 1/2 years was the heavy pursuer and always wanted to be with me and was always spilling his feelings. Well now I expect it so it is weird when it doesn't happen so its almost like I am over compensating for what the guy isn't saying. I bet that made no sense lol!
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Permalink Reply by Lexi on -
Back in the day I used to date like a guy... or at least thats what my [male] friends told me. I used to have about 3-5 of them on the go at any one time. lead them on, tell them what they want to hear, get what you want, leave them high and dry before you get in too deep. I broke a lot of hearts. or... go the opposite direction- "listen.. you're a really great guy and all, but I don't think either of us really wants a relationship. Can we just get down to it since that's pretty obviously what we're both here for?"
... there was usually copious amounts of alcohol involved in most dates i went on.
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Permalink Reply by Dr Brainspiller on -
Woah, woah, woah... Not all guys are the same. In fact, some women can be just as distant and commitment-wary. I think that I date with a little too much emotion but I've never managed to scare anyone off yet, quite the opposite actually. When I meet someone new I like to spend some time getting to know that person before I jump into bed with her. Me and my current partner spent a month dating before we did the dirty and although a month isn't all that long, it was enough time for me to know that I liked her and that she liked me. I think it's unfair to suggest that all men 'play the game', when in fact, some of them want a relationship just as much as you do.
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