The Bloggers With The Most To Say
Moving alone...
So this Fall I will be moving. I'm not sure where yet, based on if I do go back to school or not, but I will be moving. I'm ready for a new change in my life, but the scary part is moving alone. I'm either moving to Atlanta, Dallas or Austin, or Denver. I won't know a soul in any of these cities and that's scary. What is it like to move somewhere completely alone and how to make friends outside of the job? I know I have to be brave and just do it, but what's it like?
Replies to This Discussion
-
Permalink Reply by Ronnica on -
I've done it twice, but only for school, so it's not quite the same situation. Though each move was great--eventually--it IS hard at first. I was able to get involved in school organizations (the first time) and a church (the second time), and that's where I found the bulk of my now good friends. It IS scary, and you'll have up days and down days, but it's a great experience!
-
Permalink Reply by Dan on -
I've done it a few times. Most recently was from Scotland to London and loved it.
Meeting people is easy. If you play a sport or can find social groups based around an activity you enjoy then you will be able to make lots of friends easily. Going down that road means that you've instantly got a shared interest so its very easy to get talking. Shared accommodation could also be a good move, flat/house mates are instant friends and you could tap into their social circles too.
Don't worry about it, you'll have a blast!
-
Permalink Reply by Lauren Jade Martin on -
i moved from california to alabama 2 years ago, different situation though because I was going to be on a volleyball team. but if your in school thats obviously a way to meet people. but if you do move and don't go to school, sign up for local classes on whatever interest you, head out to live concerts (especially in austin) just strike up a convo with someone in a store. I made 4 friends today just walking around shopping. Just be your own biggest fan and exude confidence. :D have fun with it!! :D good luck!
http://blissfuldesign.blogspot.com
-
Permalink Reply by Angela on -
If you do move, look into Greyhound (yes, the buses) for your shipping needs. Cheaper than anything else I looked up (except for furniture).
-
Permalink Reply by Deva on -
I'm not gonna lie - it's really hard to make friends in new cities. I moved to NYC almost a year ago and I'm still struggling to make friends outside of my job (I have a couple of friends who kinda moved with me). I have to agree to most of the folks who have already posted - joining groups/organizations is definitely a great start. Those kickball leagues are pretty awesome (from what I hear) if sports are your thing. And if not, meetup.com is also great. Definitely give it time; you won't make friends overnight. Best of luck!
-
Permalink Reply by Charlee on -
Just be open and friendly - I meet new people everywhere because I am always down to hang out with individuals outside my social circle (as they all get a bit boring after a while, no?)
I have spent extended periods of time in a few places and it's just about being open to meeting people wherever...plus I think mentioning "I'm new in town" or whatever helps, as I think most people are willing to show around a newcomer or to introduce them to people, etc.
Good luck! Have fun :)
-
Permalink Reply by Andhari on -
Something that I have dreamt of. Lucky you.
It's not that hard meeting new people. Maybe people from the new work place, or from places you hang out. A few people will introduce you to more people and I'm sure it'll be a great experience.
-
Permalink Reply by Courtney on -
Maybe this is obvious, but make sure you join one of the regional groups here on 20sb! I moved from Minnesota to Tennessee in January, and while I did know a few people here, I knew I couldn't rely on them for everything. I started poking around here to find bloggers in the Nashville area, suggested a mini-meetup, and the rest is history. I've met so many amazing Nashville bloggers so far, made some great friends and contacts. Trust me.
-
Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
It's scary but a lot of fun too. It's definitely harder not being in school because you don't get the same automatic social life. While I wouldn't touch an MMA class with a ten-foot pole due to my distaste for being hit, etc ;) I would definitely join some kind of group or take a class that you're interested in to get you started.
I was feeling a little isolated recently ( I moved to a very small town by myself about a year ago) but I started taking a dance class, which has helped.
Also, don't be afraid to take new people up on their invitations. If they didn't really want you to come, they wouldn't have invited you out in the first place.
-
Permalink Reply by Mai on -
Moving is scary but it is very invigorating! You discover so much about yourself. I moved all by myself to Boston, it was for school but I'm from Texas and it was 100% than anything I ever knew. I knew NOBODY there and it was hard at first until I made friends. Then I moved to NYC alone, knew nobody there but it was different because I only lived there during the summers and I made friends pretty easily because you meet so many great strangers there.
I most recently moved to Austin. I knew two married couples. I don't hang out with them very much because they have their own lives and it's a struggle making new friends since I work from home and don't even have a job where I can make friends with co-workers! That is probably the worst part about moving here, the loneliness you sometimes feel. But it is a great city if you really just go for it! I've met so many random people it's really inspired me to go out and meet people.
-
Permalink Reply by Harper and Beatrix on -
it's amazing. liberating. the best kind of lonely.
then you'll figure out how to make friends.
~beatrix
-
Permalink Reply by Amanda on -
I am also currently living this situation. Granted, I've been living in california for going on six months, but I'm still struggling to find good, solid friends. It's been a great experience, though, and I've learned SO much about myself. But I do get lonely, and I do get homesick, but that's to be expected. Most of the people I have met out here have been through my two roommates, and I just recently started bartending, so that is helping me meet people as well.
© 2012 Created by Lisa.
