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Moving in together - what kind of weird compromises are we in for?
My clean freak boyfriend and laid back yours truly are moving in together in a couple of months' time.
I know him well and am very much aware of the fact that our standards of tidiness are not exactly on par with one another's. I'm not a dirty person at all, but I'm not hell bent on folding all my clothes and putting them away within a millisecond of them drying. I avoid ironing when possible. My pile of papers tends to stack up on my desk because I can't be bothered to file them. In contrast my boyfriend was showing me how to fold socks properly last night, and although he was being tongue in cheek, I can tell we're in for an interesting period of adjustment.
This got me wondering. What have you had to let go of or improve on upon moving in with a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Boys - any strange habits all men practice in the privacy of their homes (excluding wanking) that I should be aware of?
I know him well and am very much aware of the fact that our standards of tidiness are not exactly on par with one another's. I'm not a dirty person at all, but I'm not hell bent on folding all my clothes and putting them away within a millisecond of them drying. I avoid ironing when possible. My pile of papers tends to stack up on my desk because I can't be bothered to file them. In contrast my boyfriend was showing me how to fold socks properly last night, and although he was being tongue in cheek, I can tell we're in for an interesting period of adjustment.
This got me wondering. What have you had to let go of or improve on upon moving in with a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Boys - any strange habits all men practice in the privacy of their homes (excluding wanking) that I should be aware of?
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Permalink Reply by Erin McCarthy on -
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Permalink Reply by Christine Syrad on -
AMAZING. I think the boy would agree that this is would be a justified purchase.
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Permalink Reply by Ruhi VCI on -
I don't know if I am qualified to say this (being a girl) but I do have a clean freak BF and he is so clean freak that he has to clean the sheets the moment we are done so.... I have some experience with clean freak guys.
You can definitely expect to get into a lot of fights because he might feel that you are not doing your share of the chores not because you aren't but because he can't wait two seconds for you to get off your chair. And yes you're going to have to make a lot of adjustments because he might want you to wake up immediately after him because he can't live unless he has made the bed. But if he's wonderful I guess it's worth it.
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Permalink Reply by Christine Syrad on
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Wow, that sounds like a serious case of OCD! Good on you for being so patient!
"But if he's wonderful I guess it's worth it."
That's what it boils down to, huh? That'll be my mantra for if it ever gets tough.
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Permalink Reply by Kay on -
The SO & I moved in together after 3 months of dating. It was quick, so when we first moved in it was quite an adjustment, especially since both of us were 21 and used to being only children. It was like an invasion of my *OWN* personal space, but that only lasted a couple of months. Afterwards we got along just well. It's all a matter of adjustment and being in touch with what might bother the other person and what not, all about compromise.
5+ years later and we are still doing well.
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Permalink Reply by Christine Syrad on
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Good to hear! My man is an only child so I did wonder if that would have an impact at all. I'm quite independent and have only done long distance relationships for the last 5 years so was worried I would need my own space, but I guess he will feel the same too.
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Permalink Reply by Maxwell on -
Well my gf is a clean freak and I am a messy SOB, but we manage. We ended up doing a schedule where I write the things I have to do (so i don't forget) and just do them every week. It's been a struggle at first but it has been worth it.
We actually blog about the trials and tribulations of living together, might be interesting to see the perspective of us having lived together now for four months
http://www.howtosurvivelove.blogspot.com
The key is to not let pride get the best of you. Sometimes you just have to say "sorry" even though you know you're right :)
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Permalink Reply by Angie on -
For all you know, there may not be any compromise. My wife and I spent our first four years together long distance! Including being engaged. I met her face-to-face when I turned 18 and moved in that night. To be honest, we're very alike in everything we do, so there really isn't a compromise on either end. We wake up at the same time, play games together or work together depending on the day, shop together, hang out together, be cuddled up together, deal with family and friends together, take care of the cat together, etc.
We do have a system worked out, like if I clean the cats litter box, she'll get the hookah ready. If she cooks, I'lll wash the dishes, etc. That way we're both pitching in. ^_^
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Permalink Reply by Christine Syrad on
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Sounds like I have nothing to worry about then (We did long distance for ages too and my previous relationship was also LD). It sounds like you have perfect levels of compatibility :)
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