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Need some help from the ladies for an upcoming Post
I have a dear friend named Mr. Sunshine. He is a straight male in his late 20’s and happens to give the best advice on decoding the many penises in my life! Since he has started giving me advice … it has really made things clearer for me … when I take said advice. Ha! That’s the other part of the battle …
Any whoo! I asked him if he would write a few blogs answering in is “oh so honest, not always what I want to hear, always accurate way” …. Some questions from the ladies! So ask away either via the comments section or to be anonymous send them to whoremotions@gmail.com
I can’t promise you will get the answer you want to hear or something fluffy and PC like you do from Cosmo, but I can promise he will be accurate. And isn’t that what we want? Some downright honest answers about how the man’s mind works!
Fire away ladies ….
Here is the link so you can ask in the comments section or the email is above!
http://whoremotional.com/2009/07/decoding-the-male-mind/
Any whoo! I asked him if he would write a few blogs answering in is “oh so honest, not always what I want to hear, always accurate way” …. Some questions from the ladies! So ask away either via the comments section or to be anonymous send them to whoremotions@gmail.com
I can’t promise you will get the answer you want to hear or something fluffy and PC like you do from Cosmo, but I can promise he will be accurate. And isn’t that what we want? Some downright honest answers about how the man’s mind works!
Fire away ladies ….
Here is the link so you can ask in the comments section or the email is above!
http://whoremotional.com/2009/07/decoding-the-male-mind/
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Ha. My female friends use me for the same thing - down and dirty, straight to the point, REAL advice. It's not always what they WANT to hear, but it's what they NEED to hear. (And I hate when people ask for advice, but don't REALLY want advice. They just want at least one person to agree with the decision they already made so they can feel better about going forward with their plan.)
I think if people would learn to accept hearing things that are brutally honest and blunt, rather than this sugar coated bullshit they yearn to hear...they would be a lot better off. Like doing it Dr. Phil style. People need the truth, but they can't always handle the truth which is sad.
It's similar to "he's just not that into you." Girls may not want to hear it, but more often than not it's the cold hard truth.
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Permalink Reply by brandyismagic on
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This sounds like fun Miss Communication! I will try and think up something great to ask. David, I think the problem with some of the 'advice' people are getting (especially on 20sb forums) is that it comes across as condescending. I 100% believe that people can be told the truth, and if they are asking for advice they don't need it served coated in sugar, but at the same time a little kindness regarding someone's situation can go a long way. And I think once name calling gets thrown in.. well, it's hard to take any advice from anyone seriously, you know?
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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I know what you're referring to and as far as the "name calling" goes, as a 2nd grader would say...she started it. And out of nowhere which was uncalled for.
My advice wasn't condescending. She just twisted it into that and made it sound cold. If anything, I was trying to protect her feelings by saying "just ignore it" (because it would open up Pandora’s box of emotions) - which is the EXACT same advice every other person gave her before me. So she really should have went off on them too. But she didn’t, she felt the need to explode on me instead. I'm not just the only one who sees it that way - I've had a few people e-mail me shocked over that incident.
Anyway, doesn't matter. That girl didn’t REALLY want anyone’s advice. She just wanted someone to agree with the decision she had already made, that way she could feel better about going forward with her plan.
And if people can’t handle advice, they shouldn’t ask for it. Or be specific and say "only give me sugar coated advice that I want to hear because I can’t handle truth that is straight forward."
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Maybe it's the school teacher in me, but I can't help but think just because someone starts something doesn't mean it needs to be continued. I understand what you are saying though and even if I view the situation differently from you, it's nice to know that if I want some completely 100% sugar free advice- I know which blogger to ask!
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on
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True. I shouldn't have stooped to her level. But her blowing up no me out of nowhere, which I felt was completely uncalled for and unwarranted, really pissed me off. And I think I have a right to defend myself and correct things that she clearly took out of context and twisted. I could understand if I just chimed in with my 2 cents out of nowhere, but she ASKED for the advice. That’s what’s annoying – calling someone an immature asshole for giving you advice that you asked for!
Usually if people are hypersensitive, they don’t publicly post on a forum asking for advice because you are certain to get a wide variety of advice and in all different forms. Instead, they go to their closest friends or family for the sugar coated stuff.
Plus, if I saw someone asking for advice and then that same person attacking those who gave the very advice she asked for, I would be VERY reluctant to reply to that thread. So I doubt many, if any, more people will be willing to help her out with her dilemma there after her outburst.
Sorry, I feel like we hijacked this thread. Back to Mr. Sunshine's Q&A session... :)
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Permalink Reply by Archana on -
He sounds like one of my guy-friends who I heart! He's the same guy friend who told me that I pretty much think like a guy when it comes to certain relationship/guy-girl advice. I'm that girl that will tell her girlfriends the truth - no sugar, no frills, just the straight up obvious & honest answer. I don't do it to hurt their feelings, but I'd like to know that my advice is actually beneficial, and that at the end of the day will guide them down the path that they'll walk out of less hurt. I wish more girls would rely less on over-emotional thinking and see things for what they explicitly are a la "He's just not that into you" (like David mentioned).
Anyway, looking forward to your post once you compile some questions & answers. :)
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Permalink Reply by Miss Communication on -
Thanks so much everyone!!!
I agree on the whole advice thing ... it was refreshing to have someone tell me what i needed to hear, not what i WANTED to hear. Girls tell other girls what they WANT to hear ... because as a friend we want to see them happy, support them and don't want them to see their feelings get hurt.
My guy friend does all of that ... but lays it out!! It's not crass or mean ... it's helpful!!
David - Take it as a huge compliment that ladies come to you for advice!!!
Brandy - Please do! I think it will be a great thing that i am going to try and have him do every other month or something ... every girl needs some guy to be totally honest with her
Archana - Bahhaha! I can totally relate to being a "guy" thing! i wish i had a girlfriend like you ... mine do the totally "it's ok ... he is just scared! give him 10 years to work through it!" LOL ....yuck!
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