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Negative comments?
So I am really bothered by the title above and I need some clarity, it seems I am not so smart after all.
So after reading thousands of blog I tend to spot a trend in comments and the response
the writer tends to fire off when someone disagrees with some of or all of what
they have to say.
So my question to you guys is what is really considered a negative comment?
Does someone giving their point of view on your post make you so uncomfortable that you even delete them?
How about this one, do you want everyone to agree with everything you say on your blog?
As for me I love different perspectives, I welcome all comments because even
though we are in our twenties and we think we know it all, truthfully we often don’t
know half of that the cup is holding. Being disrespectful to a person’s blog is
totally different.
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Permalink Reply by MissK on -
I had to close down my old blog because a couple of people were constantly replying to my posts with negative 'you are so pathetic.. go get a life' type comments. It literally happened on about five posts in a row, and it was the same thing every time. All they were doing was setting out to specifically be hurtful. I don't understand people who go so far out of their way to just make miserable comments on someone's blog.
I ended up deleting the whole blog, but one of them threatened to find me and continue to spam my posts until I gave up and never blogged again. Touch wood... they haven't done it, but my comments all have to be approved before they show up on my blog. Even if they're regular commenters.
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Permalink Reply by Heidi on -
i've gotten comments like that - thats way crappy that you felt you had to shut down your blog :( - but it gives them the satisfaction of having gotten to you and bugged you so much that you let them, essentially, win.
i LOATHE trollers who leave awful negative comments for the sake of being ass holes. I will NEVER understand why someone leaves a comment to someone they don't know insulting them. I just don't get it.
Disagreeing and being outright mean are two very different things, I'll tolerate disagreement (provided it's polite and doesn't insult me personally) but negative, insulting personal comments are something i just don't tolerate (mostly because I take them way too personally when I know i shouldn't)
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Permalink Reply by Margarita on -
The only negative comments I see are ones that are kinda cruel and mean. On many popular 'mommy' blogs, on picture posts especially, there will be a random anonymous weirdo that talks about how their children are ugly and the devil and that's just wrong. Otherwise, I think when we get a comment that doesn't necessarily agree with our viewpoint, we might automatically get upset because we put our heart into our blog.
I've had a couple of 'negative' comments, really comments that just didn't agree with what I said, and I didn't respond to them at first, I let it settle and realised that it's just a different viewpoint and THEN I made my reply.
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Permalink Reply by Lizzie on -
It depends what they're disagreeing with me about - I do like a good debate on things, but if people are just trashing my opinion without giving their own thoughts then that annoys me. If it's an offensive opinion, towards me or other readers, then I don't like that either. I welcome all comments and I've got some strange ones in the past bordering on patronising, but I don't know these people well enough to know if that's how they intend to come across. You can normally tell the ones who are out there to cause ill feeling, and those who don't really mean it.
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Permalink Reply by Hello Kiley on -
I try not to respond to any negativity in the post itself, but maybe email instead. if they are just giving a point of view, no worries. :) it doesn't make me uncomfortable unless it appears like they are just trolling.
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on -
I agree
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Permalink Reply by Ashalah on -
It depends on how the comment is put. I welcome differing opinions as that promotes conversation, but only as long as they are being respectful to whoever wrote the post. Personally, I have gotten comments blatantly attacking me as a person rather than reacting to what I have written and those always will get deleted. Unless they're so ridiculous they just need to be seen :)
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Permalink Reply by S.I.F. on -
I so far haven't had any comments that I've thought of as "negative". I did have a guy who sent me an e-mail explaining that he disagreed with one of my views and then he went into why. His e-mail was disturbing, because he went into explicit details of child hood trauma (which really just made me feel awful for him), and I chose not to respond because there were just so many issues there that I didn't think there was any way this stranger and I were going to come to the same way of thinking. I didn't want to be offensive in my response, so I just figured no good could come out of responding; but I did take his e-mail to heart. Fast forward to him obsessively commenting on my blog asking me to respond and going to the lengths of finding me on facebook and it was a negative experience (he totally creeped me out) but I still didn't think it was a negative comment.
I recognize that not everyone is going to agree with me, and I actually appreciate well thought out dissenting points of view. If someone is just being a dick (or is clearly just ignorant), that would irritate me... but even then I would probably just delete it.
I don't need everyone to agree with me, I just need there to be respect in the process!
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on
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I think this i well said. but that dude i think went too far in my perspective.
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Permalink Reply by S.I.F. on
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Oh he did... He had me totally icked out for a few days! I think some people just feel the need to convince others, and will go far in their quest to make their oppinions known. I'm pretty sure he wasn't all that stable to begin with though!
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on
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lol lol well i am happy it ended on a positive note
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Permalink Reply by eQ on -
Disagreements and debates are always healthy! I leave my comments open to anonymous as well because I believe even if you don't want to identify yourself, your opinion matters.
I don't tolerate spam or attacks on others who comment on my posts. Go ahead and attack me and my views, but don't be an ignorant asshole that leaves derogatory comments. I really like smart intellectual putdowns! Keep it classy.
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