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Question for our 20 Something Blogger friends!
Heres another one for ya!! thanks to all that answered the past one
If your talking to someone is there a such thing as being too honest or open?
what do you think?
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Permalink Reply by jay. on -
I'm sure to some degree - I mean you don't want to dump all of your baggage on someone during the first date... but in the end, I think it depends on the people and the relationship/potential.
Me and the man were best friends within weeks because he was the type of person that I could really open up to - the first person... well, the only person, haha.
I think it's all about feeling out the situation. You can really scare the shit out of someone if you're too honest/open too fast without knowing how comfortable they'll be with your fowardness.
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Permalink Reply by dhpotter on -
yes, but i think it depends on the depth of the relationship already reached. And the individual you're talking to. I talk to my friends about sex and periods and bras all the time, I don't talk to my mother about that sort of thing, and I don't want to. I also don't tell someone I just met everything about myself until I know I can trust them or not. There is no shame in a little self preservation.
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Permalink Reply by Shelly on -
I think so, definitely. There are some things I just prefer to keep to myself. There was a previous post that comes to mind. The guy asking his girlfriend about her period. I don't like talking about that type of thing. Unless, I'm having a problem and I have to go to the doctor, I'd just rather not talk about it (with my husband). Usually when I'm out with the ladies and they bring that stuff up, I just listen. I don't like talking about it.
I can go with feelings along the same line. Unless I'm having a huge issue that I can't figure out, I keep to myself. I just don't like talking feelings. I get uncomfortable. Most of the time, I can sort things out for myself.
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Permalink Reply by Ashley on -
absolutely!
I am, well, was one of those people who just said whatever came to the mind...I had zero filter. It really alienates people: family, friends, dates and sometimes I do it to my husband. Not on purpose, by any means, and I am certainly not trying to be mean at all, I just say whatever comes to mind.
One would also, probably not want to be completely open on the first date. First, and even the next several dates, are a little...strange. You're getting to know someone new, learning about them but you aren't ready to know it all. If you air it all out on the first meeting, you may scare them off or weird them out, where later in the relationship the same information isn't off or strange or scary, etc. because you know them by now.
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