Relationships and dating... where does it all go wrong? Time to talk!

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Permalink Reply by Garf on June 16, 2009 at 1:02am

I always want to have a view on the effect of possessiveness on a relationship and the way things progress when it's a trade off between friends and gf/bf...include it if possible.

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Permalink Reply by Lia on June 16, 2009 at 10:54am

you mean when friends start to date?
-sorry, this is in response to garf i replied wrong lol!

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Permalink Reply by Garf on June 20, 2009 at 12:55am

I mean a lot of permutations in there....consider these:

1. My best friend aint fine fine with the love of my life.
2. My love hates to share me and being intimate with someone else who is special in the bracket of good friend.
3. Should we choose friends for each other while being in a relationship together ?
4. Possessiveness has its impacts, always ! But why is it sometimes your love misses your being possessive about her/him and why is it that he/she despises the same at times?
5. What is that thin fine line which distinguishes insecurity and possessiveness ?
6. Love is friendship and thats what i have learnt, felt, seen and did. Then how long does it take to cross over that thin line of friendship for that special someone and what if you arent able to do that always.
7. Do you practically think it as possible to have friends who are real close and best when you are deeply and madly in love with someone. How does your love and your friends feel about that ? Isnt it alwys that someone or the other ends up being hurt and you feeling sorry in the whole flow?

I am expecting you to come back with answers that satisfy my inquisitiveness regarding these interplays....

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Permalink Reply by Katie on June 16, 2009 at 12:11pm

the Mixed Signal

Men like to act interested at one moment, and then cold the next. Katy Perry really has it right with her song "Hot 'n Cold". Is it really that difficult to be consistent with your behavior?

Example: I met a guy at a wedding that we were both in. We really hit it off at the wedding and he came back to my place that night. No sexytime, just talk time. After that night, I would get random messages saying how he was glad we met, etc. Then, he disappeared for a week with nothing.

He entered back in going strong. We saw each other a few times. I went off to Florida to aid a dying relative and I hardly heard from him --- unless of course he was bored in which case I would surely hear from him.

I went to our mutual friends' house whose wedding we were in, and I was informed by the two of them that my Mr. Off And On and complained that I move too fast. REALLY?

So, I backed off.

He asked why.

"I thought things were going too quickly..."
"Well...it was...but now its good."

Wait, what?

Mixed Signaled men out there, this is for you. USE NORMAL SIGNALS. On the road, do you put your left signal on when you're turning right? No, you don't. Why? Because then the other people on the road don't know what the heck you're doing. Misunderstandings and car crashes happen this way. The dating pool would be much easier if you would just say what you mean, mean what you say and communicate what you want.

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Permalink Reply by Lia on June 16, 2009 at 12:56pm

I 100% agree with this, although I'm a girl so I guess that's why. I will definatly use this and have the men in the discussion try to give some good answers as to why they're such fickle weirdos. thanks katie!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Novelista Barista on June 16, 2009 at 1:31pm

when ur dating someone and they get too comfortable and you're stuck in a situation that you cant get yourself out of!

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Permalink Reply by Katie on June 16, 2009 at 1:38pm

That's REALLY difficult. That can be taken so many different ways too - Last guy I dated got WAY too comfortable and I did too, which made arguments rough.

Also, the spark was gone. Too comfortable sometimes=boring, and boring is never good.

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Permalink Reply by Lia on June 16, 2009 at 2:04pm

ya im not saying i want someone i fight with all the time, but there is something that has to be said about that little spark you get with some men, when you get a good debate going and you keep eachother on your toes. Being to settled isnt always good. Thanks lisa!

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