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Lately I've been wondering... how young is too young?
Does a substantial age difference matter in our 20s?
The difference between 30s and 50s-not too big of a deal.
But 19 and 24? Doesn't that seems a little... illegal?
If you've dated (or attempted to) outside of your age group- how'd it go?
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Permalink Reply by TallBrunette on -
I dated someone who was 42 when I was 22. It was alright, but eventually the differences catch up to you. (especially when he's your professor.)
I've messed around with someone who was 19 when I was 25- but (I'm gonna sound like a creepo) I didn't know he ws 19. He was French, and told me he was my age. He looked/acted like it. I didn't know.
But regardless of the age difference, I'm still good friends with these people. I think it depends on the individuals when it comes to age. A lot of it has to do with where you're at in life. Sometimes age plays no role in two people being in a transition at the same time and wanting the same thing.
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Permalink Reply by Freeman Dyson on -
19 and 24 isn't really close to being illegal and isn't a big deal.
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Permalink Reply by Life of a Love Child on -
No, I was dating a 24 year old when I was 19. Mentally, we were on the same playground because he was over the party scene and I wasn't into it. Plus, I was more mature. I worked fulltime and went to school fulltime. Now a spoiled 19 year old, yeah probably.
I'm not into the 25 and 50 thing though...
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Permalink Reply by Jamie Pilgrim on -
19 and 24 doesn't seem pushing it at all. That is coming coming from someone who started a rather risque relationship with a 29 year-old when I was 19. We're still going after two years... on and off due to a few differences, but we're going strong now.
Fortunately he looks very young for his age (one of our first dates out to an R rated movie, while he was 29, we were both asked for ID's) and the only time his age really shows is when he's listening to 80's and early 90's music, haha.
I REALLY think it depends on the people. Sometimes that age gap will really interfere and sometimes it makes no difference. In our case, for the couple breaks we took I don't think age had anything to do with it. I think I very well could have had the same issues with someone closer to my age.
In our case I think we share enough interests to connect with and have enough differences to keep things interesting.
I NEVER though I'd ever get involved with someone so old, and I do think that 10 years would be my max. I definitely would not date anyone that could be potentially be the age of my dad, think !6+ years. To me, that seems wrong. But if you're comfortable, enjoy the relationship and in it for the right reasons that so be it and don't let anyone convince you otherwise.
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Permalink Reply by Shay on -
I can't date guys younger than me period. It just can't happen, I cannot find them attractive, the minute I know a guy is younger than me I get all cuddly and wanna little brother him all day. Definitley not date.
I'm 22, I wouldn't date older than 30. I see no problem in dating into like the 30's if youre in your 20's. I just don't want a guy to be sooo much older than me that he would be fed up with my "20's" adventures. since he would be done his!
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Permalink Reply by little missy me on -
totally agreed with you there; younger than me is the biggest deal breaker. ugh
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Permalink Reply by Allison on -
My boyfriend is a year younger than me...but it really isn't a big deal. I don't see a year younger as a big deal. I can see it being weird if he were significantly younger.
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Permalink Reply by Athena on -
19 and 24 isn't that big a deal, a 19-year old isn't really a kid anymore, and not all 24 year-olds are super mature. 16 and 24 that's illegal. I also think 30 and 50 is a huge difference, I would not date someone who is as old as my father, I find that creepy, not 19 and 24. 20 year difference is really a lot, ten years is a good difference, but twenty? That's quite a big generation gap. I'm 24 myself and I'd never go older than thirty right now. There's just too much of a mentality difference and you're usually at such different point in your lives, it's bound to cause problems eventually. I'd rather go for the 19 year old than a 44 year-old to be honest.
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Permalink Reply by Andrew Rowley on -
I think it's all based on the maturity of the person in comparison to yours. 19 is legal, and 24 isn't old, so I don't think that it is a big deal. I think other than the persons maturity, what would probably have a greater effect is the social circle. If you're 24 with older friends who are 26, 28, 30, etc. then you will feel like you're dating a 6th grader, as these people, especially if they are women, tend to date older people. If you all want to go out to a nice lounge one night, your date can't because they can't even legally get in. I think the social aspects help ruin at times what may be a great relationship.
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Permalink Reply by Brooke on -
I think age difference is a very important factor in your 20s because you change SO much emotionally. You discover new things about yourself, what you want out of life, what you don't want, what type of person you want romantically, the type of friends/people you want surrounding you, etc. Also, guys are VERY emotionally immature/stunted in their 20s, which is a big part of/explanation for why most of them just want to hook up.
I'm 21 (turning 22 next week!) and casually seeing someone who's 20. Obviously we're really close in age, but emotionally, we couldn't be further we tried. I can honestly say that he has the emotional maturity of a 14-year-old, which is fine 'cause we're just seeing each other casually.
In my opinion, emotional maturity is more important than age. I think that's why relationships in which the age diff is greater than 5 years or so, and both parties are in their 30s or higher, work out more and more these days (when the guy is substantially older than the girl). Basically, in order for relationships to work, I think two people have to have similar emotional maturity, regardless of age.
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Permalink Reply by Estella Havisham on -
Absolutely. All this.
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Permalink Reply by Sex and the Shitty on -
Keep the relationship short and sweet and then it's not a problem (within' legal lines of course)
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