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Single/Dating/Online Dating - it's all making me mad.. Anyone else?!
Does anyone else have tips out there on how to meet new people besides the bars and on-line dating? It has all been rather horrific for me lately! I would love to hear from others on this.
Thanks!
TudorCityGirl
Thanks!
TudorCityGirl
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Permalink Reply by imerika on -
I actually wrote a post about on all the places i look for guys. (you can find it here)...but i would also add just every-day things you do...whether it's grocery shopping, waiting in line at borders, or pumping gas (yes i've had a guy hit on me while doing this!) You need to get out there, even if it means reading a book at Starbucks. It's hard to meet people if we just go home every night...
but if all else fails, instead of waiting for guys to hit on you, you should hit on the guys YOU find interesting...my guy friends gave me this pick up line to use (it actually worked!)
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Permalink Reply by Sean on -
Perhaps just concentrate on living your life, pursue things you find interesting, even if the social rewards aren't immediately apparent. If finding a guy is your entire pursuit, then what do you do once you have found one? Find another?
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Permalink Reply by imerika on
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ooo i second this! i definitely concentrated on being single and bettering myself and joined a bunch of social clubs, etc...and lo and behold, i actually met the current flavor of the moment at one of these "just for me" things.
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Permalink Reply by nellyn on -
I am in the same boat sister!!! I have NO idea!! Maybe try taking classes for things that interest you?
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Permalink Reply by floreta on -
I'm with Sean. Just live your life. Find out what interests YOU. Take classes. Join clubs. Meeting guys who just happen to share your awesome interests is just a bonus. :) Don't obsess about it, just try to live your life and that vitality you cultivate will attract others.
but i'm sick of these damsels waiting for their prince. :P
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Permalink Reply by Harper and Beatrix on -
so the living your life thing is clearly the best idea.
but if you want to be more proactive about it, you should let your friends know that you are open to them setting you up. you like your friends, your friends approve guys they are willing to let date you-- it has potential.
~beatrix
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Permalink Reply by SassyGirl on -
i think that's great advice, and that's basically what i've been doing.
and, although being in school sounds like a great opportunity, there aren't really that many dateable guys. they're either all taken or not taken for a reason (usually has to do with their level of douchebag-ness).
as far as the bar scene, if you go to a nicer bar for after-work happy hours, you're much more likely to meet someone dateable than going out on club night.
the other thing i would recommend is to smile. i'm not forward enough to give any "come hither" looks but i'm ok with smiling. and i find it usually solicits a good response. who doesn't like a smiling girl? :)
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Permalink Reply by cooper on -
I've never understood why anyone though a bar was a good place to meet someone -except for a possible sexual encounter. I think people do best meeting people with similar interests or life views at work, seminars, friends parties, school or grad school, practicing a sport they like from snowboarding to rock climbing and running. Doing things you love should bring you in contact with those who are similar to you.
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Permalink Reply by Tudor City Girl on -
Thanks, everyone - all great ideas...Meeting someone while you are out living life and doing what you want to do is best.
I agree with just focusing on yourself. I have been on a 6 year break, and the first 2 I took off entirely from dating to work on myself and the past 4 haven't felt ready again for a relationship until now, so thought I'd ask suggestions on how to meet more guys!
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Permalink Reply by Tudor City Girl on
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Thanks! Great ideas and thanks for the link describing, 'the line'. I like it and think I will try it out!
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Get an English Bulldog. You'll meet a ton of people! They are instant conversation starters. Plus, it's an easy ice-breaker and will surely make you feel less nervous talking to new people...that is if meeting new people makes you nervous now?
I try not to pimp my dog out, but he is a chick magnet. He's like my wingpup. Although sometimes I just want to do my own thing and walk him without every man, woman and child wanting to stop and say how awesome he is. I know he's awesome. He knows he's awesome. It's sort of a known fact that he oozes awesomeness, but I smile politely and let them melt over his squish face.
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