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TO FORGIVE FIRST TIME CHEATER?
My boyfriend... well ex-boyfriend now cheated on me 5 months into our relationship.
5 months later he brakes down and tells me the full story...
question is: do you forgive a first time cheater? does it even matter that he is a first time cheater?
would you?
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Permalink Reply by Aly on -
No. It doesn't matter that it is the first time. I may forgive them, but would never stay in the relationship. An important factor in a relationship is trust and it will never be the same.
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Permalink Reply by Tiffany Perry on -
From past experience, I believe that once a cheater, always a cheater and I (personally) would never remain in a relationship with someone who cheated on me.
Cheating is inherently a selfish act. Whether the cheating occurs because the cheater thinks it is "just once" and their partner will never know or because the cheater really wants out of the relationship but just doesn't want to handle breaking up with their partner is irrelevant so they cheat instead, the cheater is incredibly selfish. Being selfish is a personality trait and I don't think it is one you can overcome.
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Permalink Reply by Kayla Aimee on -
Being married- I think so. It'd be easier for me to forgive a sexual affair than an emotional one.
If I were single? No way.
As a married woman, I take my vows very seriously, even if he were to break his. I meant it when I said til death part us and I would make every attempt to fulfill that. Not that that gives him a free pass ;) I think it'd be the hardest thing ever to get through.
But if I were just dating, that would be a deal breaker for me. My family was broken because of infidelity and the one serious relationship I was in prior to my husband ended with him cheating on me. The weight of that was too much to get past, and I wouldn't want to start a marriage on that foot.
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Permalink Reply by Leetid on -
I could never forgive or forget because what is going to stop them doing it again. The trust would be gone and that is a very important thing for me so I would rather be on my own instead of worrying about what the other half is doing.
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Permalink Reply by Pepper on -
i personally would never stay with someone who didnt give me the same respect that i give him. it's not too much to ask for to be faithful and honest, afterall, its one of the few things in the word that is still free.
Theres plenty of men out there who would not cheat, why settle.
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