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Waiting for Sex until Marriage....totally insaine?
What is your opinion on waiting to have sex when you are married? I changed my viewpoint on this over the last few years. I have a hard time separating my mind, body and heart. Physical closeness can intensify a relationship, but often times it is a false intensity.
Don’t get me wrong, sex is awesome- one of the best things in a relationship. And I know…it is crazy and probably won’t go over well with some guys, but I really believe waiting is the right thing to do.
Last year our pastor did a whole series on sex and it totally clicked with me. One of the best analogies he used went something like this: If someone asked you if you would like to have a nice fire in your fireplace, you would love it, but would you want that fire on your furniture, drapes, and/or anywhere outside of the fireplace in your house? Well, that is how God intended sex to be- best enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Outside of marriage it can be dangerous and destructive to the relationship.
Is it totally unreasonable to expect anyone to save sex for marriage nowadays?
Don’t get me wrong, sex is awesome- one of the best things in a relationship. And I know…it is crazy and probably won’t go over well with some guys, but I really believe waiting is the right thing to do.
Last year our pastor did a whole series on sex and it totally clicked with me. One of the best analogies he used went something like this: If someone asked you if you would like to have a nice fire in your fireplace, you would love it, but would you want that fire on your furniture, drapes, and/or anywhere outside of the fireplace in your house? Well, that is how God intended sex to be- best enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Outside of marriage it can be dangerous and destructive to the relationship.
Is it totally unreasonable to expect anyone to save sex for marriage nowadays?
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on -
My husband was 23 when we got married and he was a virgin. It wasn't even an issue that I wanted to wait. I had not waited before, and that relationship compared to my relationship with my husband is SO much different, and I know it has to do with sex.
Although many people say they would like to test drive before they buy, I think it's a lack of understanding as to what sex is supposed to be. It's not just physical, it's emotional and spiritual as well. Why not save yourself for your spouse and show them that amount of respect and value, and any kinks, you can work out together. However if you listen to God about who you are supposed to marry, I'm pretty darn sure you won't have many problems. =]
Please don't think I'm being mean, I just know that I've seen both sides, and I'm so glad me and my hubby waited. It was so worth it, it felt like such an accomplishment and it saved us a lot of regret. -
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Permalink Reply by Ronnica on -
Perhaps it is unreasonable, but it's by no means impossible. It's what I'm doing, and I'm glad. Doesn't mean that I don't WANT to have sex, I'm just choosing to exercise self-control.
Proud to be a Virgin -
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Permalink Reply by Ande Pascua on -
I think saving your sex until marriage is a horrible thing! When you first meet someone it is totally based on physical attraction and passion and not because of faith. Don't lie to yourself, we all are attracted to physical appearance, not saying that there is just one type. Many of us have different types and it doesn't have to be "Hollywood" attractiveness. After that we fall in love with personalities and all! okay besides all that....waiting for sex until marriage is wrong because it seems that most people just get married to loos their virginity and Im not sure but I think Christians have the highest divorce or infidelity rates out there! Sex is a beautiful and passionate thing and that keeps the FIRE burning. When two people engage in a sexual act they subconsciously become one with one another and feel connected with each other!
Then again,
I am gay and my marriage is a sin....
* another point, why do girls have to wait to orgasm like it some sort of gift for the man, shouldn't you be able to have already orgasm ed. Virginity is awesome, but if your saving it for marriage then your succumbing to the alpha mentality that plagues this nation. Women and Men have the right to orgasm and spread their seed everywhere, even if they aren't married!
Amen to that!
=) I am not saying to go out there and whore yourself out there in the world, but it would be nice to see your options before you get married. Then again the morality of marriage has gone out the door if you ask me? Marriage is not scared anymore. -
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