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What is your definition of cheating?
I'm not being cheated on currently, but I'm pretty sure an ex cheated on me once. Well, at least what I define as cheating. Anyway, I took a marriage and family relationships course in college and this question was posed in class one day. People's responses were very interesting to me, so I thought I'd ask here, since most of us are pretty opinionated.
My question to you is, What is the first thing someone can do before you, in your mind, consider it to be cheating on their significant other? Thinking about another person in the wrong way, kissing someone else, sleeping with someone else, etc.....where do you draw the line?
My question to you is, What is the first thing someone can do before you, in your mind, consider it to be cheating on their significant other? Thinking about another person in the wrong way, kissing someone else, sleeping with someone else, etc.....where do you draw the line?
Tags: cheating, opinion, relationships
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Permalink Reply by Fidgeting Gidget on -
Yeah, I'm glad I got away from that ex...I was too shallow to know at the time, but like you said, you just know.
Now I'm married and happy...but cheaters still suck. :)
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Permalink Reply by JK on -
If I'm honest, I'd say that if you're in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be doing so much as kissing anyone else. A kiss on the cheek is fine, but lips? Hell no. If you want to see other people as well, then i don't think you're really up for being in a proper relationship.
Yet I know loads of people - alcoholic university students, what a surprise - who insist that anything with another girl (or indeed guy, the girls are just as bad sometimes, if not worse) is acceptable providing a) there's no emotional attachment and b) the girlfriend or boyfriend doesn't know.
Which just seems completely wrong to me.
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Permalink Reply by Harper and Beatrix on -
it's cheating if it feels like cheating. . . . to anyone involved.
your feelings aren't about hard and fast rules.
~b
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Permalink Reply by Fidgeting Gidget on
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Yeah, that's a good one. In the case of my ex, I know for sure that he never physically cheated on me, but I am positive that he was talking to this other girl (who he will marry this weekend, BTW) with the wrong intentions. He wasn't talking to her as just friends...even though it may have started that way. If you seriously think about someone that you're not romantically involved with in a way that you should be thinking about the one you're with (and I"m not talkin like "Ooh, Brad Pitt is hot,"), then in my opinion, you're cheating.
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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on -
Anything you would feel ashamed to do infront of your significant other is cheating. That's how I define it.
So everyone's definition may vary a little, like some would be ok with flirting, some may not. But basically anything you would feel ashamed to do infront of your significant other is cheating/unacceptable behavior.
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on -
I have to agree with you dude!
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Permalink Reply by Akirah on -
Hmm. I definitely think this is relative. I know some couples where it's acceptable to hang out with people of the opposite sex and other couples where it's completely unacceptable. Personally, I think it's about intention. If you are pursuing a person of the opposite sex (or I guess the same sex, depending on your sexual orientation) who is not your significant other, with the intention of fulfilling some sort of need or desire that your significant other should be fulfilling, than you're probably cheating.
So giving some chick in your math class your number because she's willing to help you out in math is not cheating, but giving some chick in your math class your number because she's willing to help you out in math and because she's hot and because you wanna see if she'll fall for you is.
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Permalink Reply by Erini CS on -
I agree with this. Cheating goes beyond physical acts. Emotional cheating is just as devastating to a relationship as physical, and in some cases, more so.
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Permalink Reply by Margaret on -
I think cheating is a symptom of a problem. It can be as simple as flirting with someone or as intense as a "undercover" relationship / whatever, but in the end all that matters is that there is a problem with the relationship and cheating is just behavior to express that. I'm not condoning it, but I know so many people that have been cheated on and they keep their significant others around and instead of trying to figure out why they cheated, they spend all their time obsessing about the act itself and everyone's miserable. so my answer to your question is that it depends on the intention behind the act.
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Permalink Reply by MissAshley on -
I think when you start lying about and hiding a relationship with someone from your significant other, it's cheating.
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