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What's the best way to get over an ex?
I have a friend going through a tough breakup right now. I've been there before too, and know it's hard. How have other people dealt with it? For me a combo of ice cream, venting, and a lot of time did the trick.
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Permalink Reply by Katie on -
I prefer to get busy. Join a new club. Adopt a new hobby. Go out with your friends and have a good time. I've always thought that wallowing was sort of counter-productive. You want to get over him? Pave over the potholes he left with new, fun, and interesting things, with good times with your other loved ones, and with a new appreciation for how awesome your life is without him. Time obviously helps, but you can speed up the process by not dwelling on him and by focusing on yourself instead.
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Permalink Reply by Peppers on -
I went through this before too. I gave myself a makeover, pampered myself, worked out, and always made sure I looked good and had plans and had lots of fun with friends. That is my motto in life: "If all else fails, look good." I think it works for us gals... it's good for self-esteem, especially when we feel betrayed and unwanted by the ones we loved.
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Permalink Reply by Sweet Dee on -
Agreed! When I brokeup with my ex, almost a year ago, one of the first things I did was get a hair cut. He always liked my hair long and I had been dying to change it up, but didn't since I didn't think he would like it. Working out helped keep me busy too.
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Permalink Reply by treacleandink on -
I started writing a blog!
I knew he'd see it and read about how amazing my life was without him and it would make him jealous.
The internet and it's stalkers can be a wonderful thing at times...
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on -
That's kind of funny! :-D
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Permalink Reply by Krysten (After 'I Do') on -
Yep, all of those are good. Plus spending lots of time with friends and cutting the ex off. Sometimes it's hard, especially if you've been with the person a long time. But I've found that it's really hard to get over someone if you still somehow keep them in your life. It always leaves you hopeful that things will change.
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Permalink Reply by Sweet Dee on
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So true! I'm trying to tell my friend that she needs to stop stalking her ex on facebook, but she won't listen to me. Giving yourself that distance from him/her online and off is so important.
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Permalink Reply by Holly Renee on
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Staying busy as others have said helped me. Also, finding friends I could really trust and talk about it with. I also went to some therapy sessions because it was really devastating at the time. I read that a break up can be as hard as the death of someone close to you, as far as grieving goes. I think we don't really recognize how traumatic it can be in this society.
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