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When is it right to introduse the person your dating to your parents?
So I have been with my girl for a year and a few days ,she have never met my mom. She keeps asking to meet my parents but for some reason
it never works out. There was only one other girl to have ever met my parents
that I have dated, I find it that I tend to not introduce people to my parents
if I cant say for sure if ill be in it for the long haul.
Is this fair to her? I have met her family and spent time with them over and over again.
When is it right to introduse the person your dating to your parents?
What if you introduce the person your dating to your parents and they don’t reciprocate? How would you feel?
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Permalink Reply by John Reckzeny on -
My rule of thumb is that you should never introduce your girlfriend to your parents before she introduces her parents to you. This is such a milestone in the relationship in my point of view because of the new expectations that come with it. After your gf meets your parents, then your trips back home all of a sudden aren't automatic 'solo' trips anymore--at least without a discussion or obligatory invite.
Besides the trivial/ selfish implications, I always like to be the first to be introduced to parents because I usually get along great with parents. I don't know what the hell it is with these chicks in Dallas, but they are so "on-guard" and tend to act like they got gigantic tree trunks stuck up their asses when they meet their bf's family. I can't tell you how many times I've overheard negative gossip over this topic and the two Dallas chicks that I actually introduced to my parents failed miserably. They generally make no effort to connect to their bf's families and when they do, they act as if they are in a job interview or something--it is completely off. I imagine these are the same girls who would yell at their parents and run away into their rooms and lock the door behind them, thereby in their "personal space" that their parents cannot intrude upon. Idk...I like to set the precedent that I expect my gf to follow when they meet my parents.
Family trumps all, no matter who or what (with regards to us non-married folk)---you disrespect my family, then that is usually the breaking point. This is also why I tend to put this "milestone" off for as long as possible.
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Permalink Reply by Smarla Angtuaco on -
hmmm i tend to introduce my significant other when im seriously dating him. :) it's important for me to see how my family reacts to him. of course it won't be the main basis if he's a keeper but it's part.
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