When Someone you know finds your anonymous blog

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Permalink Reply by Ana from far away! on June 7, 2009 at 8:41pm

Only 3 of my friends know, but only one has the link. I prefer to keep it like, so I can write about whatever I want. But I guess that at some point someone will find my blog, but oh well.

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Permalink Reply by Britt on June 7, 2009 at 8:47pm

I just pulled links to my blog from Facebook and took my real name off of Twitter (my blog is linked from there) because I realized that even though my friends knew about it, it wasn't like they were super interested anyway (plus, i post entries on Facebook every now and then).

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Permalink Reply by Cox on June 7, 2009 at 9:31pm

My friend told 2 of my housemates after a few beers at a concert. I forgot until the next day one of them was reading it on the couch. I called one of my housemates a big dumb gorilla in a post. Hope she didn't tell him about that one!

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Permalink Reply by cooper on June 7, 2009 at 10:19pm

My grad school, a prospective grad school at the time, found me back when I was anonymous, after that I gave up and was no longer anonymous.

That is why you don't write anything in a public blog you don't want the world to see, otherwise make it private.

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Permalink Reply by David Stehle on June 7, 2009 at 10:54pm

Sounds like you learned this lesson the hard way - anonymous is never TRUELY anonymous.

Just about anything and everything you say/write online has a way of being tied back to you, identify who you really are.

This is why I’m particularly mindful when it comes to blogging about my personal relationships. I keep in mind that it’s not just about me, there is another person involved...and they may not appreciate me disclosing certain bits of info about their private life or our relationship.

I say, just be careful what you write. You wouldn't want it to kill a potential relationship before it has a chance to even start.

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Permalink Reply by Sebastian on June 8, 2009 at 9:40pm

As David says (he's a wise man is our Dave), remember relationships are always about two people!

Personally, I'm a huge advocate of no-kissing-and-telling. I never, ever gossip about relationships that I may or may not be having -- I actually leave it up to the girl to decide if she wants to publicise it. I guess I'm 'honourable' like that, I don't know.

But I also have a 'time limit' on that. I would never blog graphically about a current relationship, but anything old or 'ex' is totally free-game, and I have written a LOT about relationships that didn't work out.

Of course I don't use any identifiable names, but that's just common sense.

Remember, blogging itself is all about sharing information. Don't share something you're ashamed of ever being found out by someone you love or care about :)

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Permalink Reply by Alatariel on June 11, 2009 at 2:08pm

I absolutely agree with you. What it comes down to in a relationship is that there are always two people involved and part of what you experience gets shared only with each other. The things that you say on the internet, or any other piece of writing people can read, shouldn't be any different from the things you'd say in the 'real world'. I guess people will always use the internet to vent but for me that's not what this is for.

The only thing I disagree on is the ex bit. Ex or no ex, I guess that's a limit for me as well. Just because a relationship has ended doesn't mean that the little things you experienced together can suddenly be thrown out into the open (to be a little dramatic). They're still the sincere and sacred things that made your relationship so wonderful. Your relationship might have ended but that doesn't change the fact that once you and your ex had a splendid time. I guess that's me being 'honourable' right there ;)

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Permalink Reply by Ronnica on June 8, 2009 at 4:17pm

Since the blog is one way of expressing myself, I seek to do it in a way that is wise. If I offend someone, it'll be because they don't like my views, not because I said something hurtful about them!

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Permalink Reply by Tudor City Girl on June 8, 2009 at 9:22pm

Thanks to everyone...Such great responses!

I feel badly I wrote on my blog about a guy I dated twice.. I said he was very nice, we met in a very cool way but I just didn't feel the attraction. I had NO idea he would Google me to no end and find the blog, as nobody I know knows about it! But yes, I have learned a lesson the hard way.
I don't write anything hurtful otherwise about people...Well, maybe my former boss who laid me off..haha. But the dates I have are usually just one-daters and I never use real names.
But again, I have learned a lesson the hard way - you are right- anything we write on-line is never truly anonymous. Thanks again!
TCG

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Permalink Reply by Harley Jane on June 15, 2009 at 9:25pm

Yeah - my ex found my blog a little while ago: Buzz. Kill.

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Permalink Reply by Harper and Beatrix on June 8, 2009 at 10:38pm

i'm a little afraid one of my friends will find the blog and be upset that i use so much of his/her clever material.

i'm glad i've dodged the bullet on the boy i'm with finding out about the super secret blog.

~beatrix

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Permalink Reply by Andhari on June 10, 2009 at 12:38am

I know how you feel although my main blog isnt anonymous and open for public, another one is kinda anonymous, not for people in blogosphere of course, I'll let you know the url but I don't want people in real life to read it. I would ne totally upset too :(

ps. you might be better off without him though if he GOOGLED YOU just to find more about you and your blog? ohmygod, people in your life should know that if you never mention to them about your blog then you don't want them to read. He's acting like a stalker to me, sorry.

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