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Who Has the Upper Hand in Relationships? Men or Women?
Who "wears the pants" in your relationship? I just wrote an aptly title post about why I think most women truly have the "upper hand" in relationships. What do you think about it?
Tags: dating, men, relationships, women
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Permalink Reply by Smart Ass Sara on -
I am not ashamed to say I wear the pants in the relationship. My hubs knows it and does not question it. For several reasons, some of which being that I'm generally better at everything but mostly because I think he's slightly scared of me. Which is fine, it works out for me. Him, not so much maybe. But if it doesn't involve killing rodents/bugs, taking garbage out, cleaning up what we call PPV in our house (pee, poop, vomit), or fixing broken stuff- it's all me. he gets the crap jobs and "other duties as assigned" (which is code for stuff I don't want to do) because frankly, I'm better at delegating. At least stuff gets done. :)
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Permalink Reply by imerika on -
Dude, of COURSE women have the upper hand in relationships.
We just LET the guys think they do...
I think most guys would agree with this too.
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Permalink Reply by JackoStain on -
For me I don’t believe in man or woman wearing the pants so to speak. I truly believe in collaborative effort, naturally in a relationship people have their strengths and weaknesses and base on those factors I think an agreement should be made as to who does what.
Relationship is not a business it don’t need a Manager to delegate responsibilities, if the woman is better at handling the money give her that job, if not then the male take it.
So to answer your question either of us does.
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Permalink Reply by Oats on -
I have to agree. I think that in order to have a truly healthy relationship, responsibilities have to be completely shared. Thus, no one would wear the 'pants' in the family, unless you cut the pants up the groin.
If you think that you need to wear the pants in a relationship, you may be a control freak. This is not a redeemable quality. Not something that mentally healthy people look for in someone. There are people out there that may be your perfect match though. They're called "mooches". They'll live off your income, move in to your apartment because they can't afford rent and got evicted. They can't manage money, responsibility, and typically lack ambition or motivation, however they're usually charmers! They will willingly give up the pants in a relationship in order to maintain their life as a sloth.
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Permalink Reply by Kanwal Khalid on -
I always thought I'd be the dominating one whenever I got with someone. Unfortunately my husband won't let go off the pants in this relationship. Sigh. He definitely has the upper hand.
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Permalink Reply by Angie on -
I don't really think men or women have the upper hand. There may be one person who is good with money, the other who is good with taking care of the house, etc., etc.
In our relationship, my wife and I share the "duties" around the house. Cleaning, cooking, washing clothing, folding laundry, gardening, etc. We also do the yard work together, like shoveling, the garden, etc.
With our money, neither of us is in "charge" of the money. We have a shared bank account, we both know how much is in it at all times, we both check the account, we both buy what we want and need without having to "ask the other," etc. We also both know how much the bills are and all that fun shit. ^_^
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Permalink Reply by Mr. Apron on -
Generally speaking, in most relationships, law enforcement has the upper hand. That's why they're always called in to mediate domestic disputes. I mean, if you've got a gun, a retractable baton and a TASER-- you're going to have the upper hand.
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Permalink Reply by Heather on -
I don't think that either man nor woman have the upper hand it's just how you meld together. I am always a strong willed person when it comes to my beliefs and I don't like to compromise them for anyone. I am very fiscally responsible even though I'm poor and I try to help my boyfriend be more responsible and he helps me let loose and have fun. The reason we both work so well together is because we bounce off each other.
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Permalink Reply by Shayna on -
Depends on the personalities... I would say whoever is the more confident decision-maker
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Permalink Reply by Harley Jane on -
I don't think it depends on the gender, I think it depends on who loves more. Whoever loves more is the one with the most to lose...
Although I also think imerika's theory is also a strong possibility!
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