Are you happy with being introverted?

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Permalink Reply by Erwin M on June 17, 2008 at 3:50pm

introverted = teh suck when it comes to social gatherings. (clubs, parties, etc).

introverted = dope when you have hella time for yourself.

thats how i look at it. i agree its frustrating when your sober & introverted. =/ but im happy most of the time cuz its like still waters run deep and shit. layers upon layers.

Permalink Reply by Laid Back Lion on June 17, 2008 at 5:00pm

i see where you are coming from. Its kinda like something good making up for the downside.

Permalink Reply by Laid Back Lion on June 18, 2008 at 9:15am

super long answers are normally the best. Thanks for sharing.

I hope to accept the same way you have. I'm still going through the "trying to fit in" stage. I fail most of the time because my hearts not in it.

Permalink Reply by PP on June 21, 2008 at 10:23pm

I would LOVE to be more confident. Recently I was on a hen week in Spain and a couple of the girls there with me were so unbelievably confident that I felt like a total wallflower in comparison. Oddly enough though, people rarely actually realise how introverted i really am - I think I'm pretty good at putting on an act, to the point where sometimes I even fool MYSELF . . .

Permalink Reply by Writing to Reach You on June 21, 2008 at 11:12pm

Yes and No. I'm happy with myself as an introverted person. But, I think it leads to me being very misunderstood by people, and I don't have as many people in my life as I'd like.

Permalink Reply by Laid Back Lion on June 25, 2008 at 11:26am

I agree with you about people seeing you as being an outcast for not wanting to get involved with colleagues socially. I work in a close nit office.

I'd love to find people on the same wavelength too, it would be refreshing to talk to someone who goes through the same stuff as i do, however saying that i've had major difficulties in talking to people who feel as uncomfortable with me in talking to new people lol

Permalink Reply by Laid Back Lion on June 26, 2008 at 6:07am

i don't go completely silent, but imput some wit or my opinion when necessary. I've had bad experiences in just talking random nonsence, so whenever i am in a group i save my best jokes, comments and so on and just talk when i have something valuable to say. It seems to work.

Permalink Reply by Jen on July 2, 2008 at 9:47pm

It's definitely a sucky thing to be!
I have to have someone I know will try not to judge me, with me on outings or whatever, as a buffer I guess, or I get fidgety.

It always sucks when people have to make excuses for me or answer a question meant for me to answer but I was just too unsure how to phrase something in a way that would be understood. It makes me feel like I'm someone to be ashamed of, really.

Permalink Reply by Laid Back Lion on July 3, 2008 at 10:53am

i totally understand. Having someone around who doesn't judge you comes in very handy. I have a few friends like that.

Permalink Reply by Esther on July 3, 2008 at 3:38pm

I like being introverted when I have time for myself, but when I'm staying with family members or visiting somewhere, it's so much better to try and be able to jump into the conversation anywhere. I'm an extroverted introvert (if that makes sense?). I'll stand in a group of people listening to their conversation, but I won't necessarily say anything. I get a lot of crap for it though, people telling me to "say something!" but I just don't feel like I HAVE to. Or that I want to add anything to the conversation that isn't already being said. But I'm like that on here too, if I see that someone else has already said what I wanted to say, I'm not just going to repeat it. But...eh. I don't even know if that makes sense or not, ha.

Permalink Reply by Zoe on July 10, 2008 at 2:18am

I enjoy solitude & quiet, but I hate my awkwardness in social situations. When I was younger, like someone else posted, I tried to join clubs. I took classes on giving speeches & things of that sort. As a result, I often feel at ease talking in front of a crow, but I'm still not able to be part of the crowd.

I think some of my shyness comes of having a soft voice. If my voice carried, I'm sure I'd be a more bubbly outgoing person like (I hope) I am in my journal. Unfortunately, I'm not really able to project my voice very well. I still force myself to interact--I love being around people--but it's difficult. It's not that I'm overly nervous, but I'm really bad at sounding interesting or simply carrying on a conversation.

Permalink Reply by Rex on October 5, 2008 at 8:29pm

I try to find the beneficial side to everything, as it's in me to default to destructive thinking.

I agree with Erwin that introversion is great when you have time to be by yourself. I think introversion lends itself well to personal growth, as you're always looking inwards, gaining a lot of self-knowledge hopefully in the process.

It's not the worst thing in the world to me anymore that I'm the quiet one at a social situation. Like from this conversation Jackie and Donna had on That 70's Show, there's colorful, lively people and gray, dull people. If there weren't any grays, the colors wouldn't pop as much and the world would be this over-saturated, in the end, dull place to be. That's how I see it when I'm with one of my more articulate, charming friends. I stop trying hard, going against my personal grain to out-pop them and I let them have their moment, coz I know I'll have mine when the time comes that they need the wisdom that my introspection has yielded me.

I like to see it as a yin-yang deal of give and take and that everything has its place. It's universal altruism to know your role, get engaged in it and blossom as a provider of vibes the world needs.

I totally sound like a neo-hippie, LOL!

Cheers,
Rex

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