Is there really a faithful Christian girl out there that is looking for a nice Godly man?

I am realizing that when every time I meet a nice Christian girl that they all seem to want the same thing, and that is a nice guy that loves them for who they are on the inside and the outside. After dating them for awhile I realize that they are just like non Christian girls as well they say they want a great guy that treats them right, but I see that they really just want a this bad guy that gets into trouble. I guess this saying is still true that nice guys finish last. In the past ten years have been in one bad relationship after another, and all the girls claimed the same thing..I have been lied to for entire relationships, I have been cheated on...and mostly brokenhearted. How does someone that claims to love God do this to people? So should I give up looking for this God loving true Christian girl, or should I continue to be lied to and brokenhearted? Is there really a faithful Christian girl out there that is looking for a nice Godly man?

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Permalink Reply by Chris Caputi on January 31, 2012 at 5:27pm

I mean I don't want to sound rude, but yes as a human I do get angry, and bitter, but that doesn't mean I am not a nice guy. I mean just because I am a nice guy doesn't mean I don't have these emotions. I liked your advice, but I think I am just going to be single for awhile. but thank you for putting in the time to write that. A lot of the time I feel like I need to be with someone when in reality I don't. All I need is God. I wrote this when I didn't know the direction I was going in, but God has opened my eyes. I still like to read what people think.

Permalink Reply by SavvyD on January 31, 2012 at 6:24pm

I tried to frame it as not directly aimed at you. Remember, we don't actually know each other. Sometimes girls will say a guy is nice because it's an easy way out. Why would it be rude to say that sometimes you are angry and bitter. I've seen anger and bitterness lead to major problems in relationships.

I think the whole "I don't need anyone but God" thing can end up being a real trap. Take some time to yourself, but don't completely close yourself off either. You haven't met the right person.

Permalink Reply by Jane Doe on February 8, 2012 at 11:27am

Hey Chris,

I've read this and all the conversations, and I'm hoping that maybe, my story might encourage you.

I spent years jaded by Christian men -- men who proclaimed to love the Lord and then would purposely do things to hurt me, would relish in my broken heart, and then attempt to use me again. For a while, I stopped even considering Christian men.

But then I decided to take a journey to find a truly Godly man. Part of that journey was writing love letters to my future husband, in faith that God had him out there somewhere for me. I went through a lot, I struggled a lot, but eventually, I started to find encouragement in singleness and in waiting and seeking a truly Godly man.

I was blessed enough to stumble across him last summer. I'm currently doing a series on my blog about that, but if you're interested, the blog starts way back at the love letters and pursuit of all this.

Here is a link to the beginning of the story on my blog:

http://bit.ly/xyQIdm

If you're not interested, that's cool too. I hope you find some encouragement -- I can promise you that there is a woman out there seeking a Godly man, and one day, you will find her :)

Permalink Reply by Chris Caputi on February 14, 2012 at 12:22pm

This does sound interesting..I usually don't have much time during the week to read much, but I will try to. Thanks for your encouragement. The funny thing is I wrote this weeks ago, and I have changed my view on things. I am glad that people are still talking about this. Thanks again!

Permalink Reply by A girl with a smile on February 8, 2012 at 3:09pm

There are faithful Christian girls out there. My question is why are you dating? Relationships are based on two people, not just one. What has God said about your past relationships? Maybe He's trying to get your attention because He needs to work on you first before He brings you that godly, Christian, faithful, & nice girl don't you think?

My advice: stop attempting to get into relationships/dating. Start asking God the hard questions and let God LEAD you to the one He has for you.

Is there really a faithful Christian girl out there that is looking for a nice Godly man?

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