Conflicting Schedules

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Permalink Reply by Celia on March 31, 2008 at 7:41pm

I've been married almost 6 years and this is the thing my husband and I have the hardest time with. I agree with Tin Ma'am, sometimes it's just a matter of being in the same room with each other. A couple years ago we had separate friends and I worked lots of nights and weekends. We thought it was ok until we had a couple weeks together and realized how much we missed each other. All I can say is make sure you keep talking and stay involved in each other's lives. Also, use the small amount of time you do have together and enjoy it!

Permalink Reply by Ashlee A. on May 31, 2009 at 10:50am

My hubby and I have always had opposite schedules. We really missed each other alot until we started to create new ways to be "close" even at work. We write each other love notes for our lunches, call each other on our breaks, i even whipped up some squishy hearts with our cologne on them to carry in our bags. (okay, that sounds super cheesy..) One thing that we worked really hard on is setting aside a date night every week. We dont get to talk about work. We usually go out to eat and come home with a red box and watch movies with popcorn. That's my favorite night of the week. We get to cuddle and sometimes we just end up talking through the movie. We had to make that time, or else we would just do the mindless tv/internet thing and not say a peep to each other.

Permalink Reply by Mrs. Happily-ever-after on June 5, 2009 at 9:58am

I love the notes in lunches idea! My husband made me lunch a few times recently, complete with note, and I was the envy of the break room at work.

Permalink Reply by jay. on July 2, 2009 at 3:19am

we will have been married for a year on july 5th(i joined a few days early!) and we're already hitting all this crap. he just started school.. so he gets up at 5:30, leave at 6am, and gets home around 1pm. he's gotta be at work at 2pm and we're not usually home together until 10 something, but by then he's ready to go to sleep because he's gotta get up and start all over. if we watch movies, he falls asleep during them. he'll even fall asleep in the middle of a sentence, on occasion. we haven't quite figure out how to get around it yet.. but i will say that it has put a damper on our "newlywed stage" a lot sooner than i had anticipated. quite often, i'll lay in bed and just watch him sleep because that's the only time i get to really see him at all. unfortunately, i have no tips for you.. but i wouldn't mind some of my own. how do you keep romance alive in a marriage where you literally NEVER see eachother?

Permalink Reply by Susan Ranjan on July 21, 2009 at 1:21pm

Have a relaxing breakfast together,in the balcony or something and talk..maybe news articles ..have a blast during the weekends.(the 1/2 of it ) :-)

Permalink Reply by Natalie Wardel on August 4, 2009 at 5:35pm

Date night! Its a must. Sometimes I don't really see my husband until Friday (we might connect at 9 p.m. or 10 but that's it), but we email back and forth all week about where we are going to go and what we are going to do. It keeps a spark!