Travelling husbands

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Permalink Reply by Libby on July 13, 2008 at 7:52pm

i definitely feel not quite whole when my hubby isn't around... he travels a lot for work & at first it was hard, but you do get kinda used to it. it makes you appreciate your time with each other a lot which i figure is a big plus:)

he also decided that the weekend after he gets back from any business trip is set aside for us to do something special together...

Permalink Reply by Melissa on July 13, 2008 at 10:59pm

Well, I thought my posted discussion went thru a black hole or something because nobody replied, and that's NOT what I needed this month while my husband is away... :'-(

Thanks for replying Libby, I think it's so true! I'm planning a big surprise for when he comes back, I'm thinking on making dinner and getting his favorite dessert, a bottle of wine, just the two of us in our deck under the stars... haha any other ideas? Or what kind of special things you do to welcome him back?

Permalink Reply by Libby on July 14, 2008 at 8:49am

we usually have a nice dinner together & hang out, but sometimes we'll go to our favorite Irish pub & have a drink or we'll go out for dinner somewhere nice...just depends on what kind of mood we're in. he's usually pretty exhausted when he gets back from trips, so we tend to stick close to home.

Permalink Reply by Melissa on July 15, 2008 at 12:27am

it think we'll do that, it sounds like fun, and you're right he will probably be tired (he'll be driving back from Colorado)

Thanks!

Permalink Reply by Libby on July 29, 2008 at 5:57pm

I know that feeling;-P

Permalink Reply by Melissa on July 31, 2008 at 9:03pm

Yes, after he came back it was kind of weird because I did have a routine and had things to do (besides he surprised me and came back before I expected him) but it's always good to have him back.
Although it took me a couple of days to adjust ...

Permalink Reply by Smilf on August 26, 2008 at 7:24pm

Since I just found this group I am a little late on this but I know how you feel. My husband used to have to travel up to 4-6 weeks at a time and often. Thankfully it isn't as bad now - more like 1 week or a few days here and there (he is gone right now actually). I still feel somewhat empty when he is gone. I have learned however that this is part of being married to him and I have learned to enjoy my time alone. I'm a person who needs "me" time anyway though. : ) I cook whatever I want for dinner, put on my pj's right after work and either watch trashy TV that he hates or read a good book. Or go out with girlfriends for dinner. Bedtime is the worst, but I think I have gotten a lot more used to it.

Permalink Reply by Melissa on August 27, 2008 at 12:24pm

You know, you're so right! After he left for a month I had a really hard first week, but then after that it felt like back on the old days - single time, not minding other people's opinions on what to watch on TV, what to eat, what time to go to bed, etc. Of course I missed him but I didn't feel empty or incomplete as my first week felt. I guess we haven't been together (literally) for almost 4 years, everyday. It wasn't healthy to be so attached, so I'm over that now.

When he came back I was so inmersed in my own little world that it really felt as he was interrupting my routine! I mean, it was great to have him back, but at the same time I remembered how good it feels to just have 'me' time.

I think it's good to learn - or relearn - to enjoy your alone time, you can find out new things about yourself that you hadn't realized before!

Permalink Reply by Andrea on September 18, 2008 at 9:19pm

It is not that I feel like I am not whole, it is just so different when Hubs is out of town. I hate it. I get into a groove when he is here and I really enjoy just seeing him around. Now, he travels are the darn time I(although I am trying to be thankful he has a good paying job) I am just so frusterated he is always gone!

Permalink Reply by Tova Darling on October 2, 2008 at 4:04pm

Oh yes, I can relate. My husband is in medical school, so he does out of state rotations periodically which require us to live apart for four weeks (we see each other most weekends during those times). The key for me has been to stay busy. During the times he's gone, I make dinner plans with various friends three to four times a week. It stinks to have him gone, but on the bright side, I've maintained (and re-built) really close relationships with a lot of friends instead of dropping out of their lives like a lot of girls do once they're married.

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Permalink Reply by Ashley on January 12, 2009 at 8:47pm

So I'm new to the arena of "Traveling Husbands" ... I have been married for 4.5 years and my husband will go on his first trip (3 days) at the end of this month and then will have to leave again 5 days after he gets home to go overseas for two weeks. I am seriously dreading it. We have only been apart 3 days/nights total the whole time we have been married. Oh - and the trip overseas - yeah it's over Valentines... Any advice for a newcomer?

Permalink Reply by Melissa on January 12, 2009 at 9:18pm

Welcome! My husbands is going out of town (again) tomorrow and coming back in 4 days. I used to get really depressed when he was out of town but after he left for a month last year, I think I got to see the positive side of it. I got in a routine and made plans with friends so I can look forward to them and not focus on him not being here and feeling lonely. I'm sure the first week will be really hard - the hardest part is going to bed and there's nobody to cuddle! I now let my dog sleep on the bed when hubby is gone - but it will pass. Try to stay busy and do those things you wouldn't do when he's around like watch chick flicks, eat food he doesn't like, have a few ladies nights, GO SHOPPING! or shop online if you're lazy like me ;-)

Good luck!

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