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Dealing with the In-Laws
Hey everybody! I checked though the board and didn't see a posting quite like this. I've just come back from a short visit with my husband's side of the family. And once again, I've realized that while I enjoy some of them, for the most part they are so different from my family that I can't understand their life choices.
This is certainly not to say that my family is perfect, or even functional. But his family is so beyond my scope of experience, that I feel uncomfortable and don't quite know what to do next at most functions.
Do any of you have any advice, other than grin and bear it?
Thanks!
This is certainly not to say that my family is perfect, or even functional. But his family is so beyond my scope of experience, that I feel uncomfortable and don't quite know what to do next at most functions.
Do any of you have any advice, other than grin and bear it?
Thanks!
Tags: dysfunctional, family, in-laws, marriage
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Permalink Reply by Stephanie Sgherza on -
If I only knew, too! My hubby's family is so different from mine too, and I'm in the same boat as you. My hubby is not quite like them though, so a lot of times I say he must be adopted! Good luck with the in-laws!
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Permalink Reply by Elizabeth W - Falling From Prams on -
I am in the same boat. There is a great forum on Thenest.com that had lots of women with loads of advice. Trouble in Paradise is my board of choice since my in-laws are crazy, destructive human beings.
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Permalink Reply by Brandi on -
My husband's family (mother, father, and sister) each suffer from a different mental illness. It makes life extremely difficult (mostly for my hubby, who has been very frustrated with it his whole life). Luckily, he has an uncle who is pretty great, and has a "second family" from a childhood friend. We generally don't see much of them, but when we have to, I just always try to look happy and be positive about everything. I keep conversations pretty light and smile a lot. I wish it could get less awkward, but it hasn't yet for me. Just know you're in good company!
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Permalink Reply by Smart Ass Sara on -
My mother in law is certifiable and has done plenty to warrant me killing her and being able to say it was either insanity or self defense. So basically I am just vocal when I think she's dead wrong and other times I keep my mouth shut. And then write in the book I am totally publishing the day that woman dies. :) LOL. I mean really, this is the lady who offered my hubs $5000 to walk away on our wedding day. While being videotaped. And thought this was normal behavior. HAHA.. :)
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Permalink Reply by wannabump on -
Totally with you on this... I actually just got finished blogging about my in-laws. Seems like a lot of the issues I've run into (and in talking with other married girlfriends) are directly related to his mother. I think that the relationship between mothers and daughter-in-laws is often a tense one and a source of conflict and is actually inherent to our beings! Mothers don't want to see their sons change or adapt to a different way of life than what they had when they were living with their mothers and I think it's tough for mothers to let their "little boy" go... I usually just smile and stay quiet for the most part, especially if it's a situation that I know could turn impossibly uncomfortable. Good luck! I think all us wifeys are in the same boat!
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Permalink Reply by Abbie on -
I certainly feel that way, especially about my hubby's extended family. Luckily, we see them once maybe twice a year. I'm able to gravitate towards the people I want to talk to (which are few) versus the ones I love to stay away from! If you are visiting them a lot, you might want to try and scale back on visits. Other than that, grin and bear it and keep conversations light is all I know how to do. I'm good with vague, generic :) Good luck with the in laws!
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