How Does It End?

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Permalink Reply by katrina kay on February 3, 2011 at 3:18pm

i think my quarterlife crisis will be over when i find a well paying job and move out of my parents house. haha

Permalink Reply by Gingeroot on March 16, 2011 at 7:24pm

I think it's all in perspectives. 

When we graduate from our 20s, we'll be worried about our 30s. When we turn 40, we'll be worried about comfortable retirement. When we retire, we'll be worried if our lifestyle can last, when we're 60 we'll be worried about providing for our loved ones after we're gone. 

 

There's no ANSWER, because it's all in your experiences and how you choose to perceive them. 

 

I read something interesting today. This girl was going through many of the things we discuss here and she said that she decided to do something for herself - to stop looking upon her life as "in transition". 

 

In our twenties, were waiting for something to happen - waiting to finish school, waiting for a good job, to move out, to have a family, to follow our dreams, to be out of debt - and many of us tend to let WAITING get the best of us. 

I think the key to working through all this and being happy doing it, is... to be happy doing it! No matter what "it" is. 

 

This is your life and you're only 20-something for a few years. Every thing you do now is part of how you define yourself. Life isn't for finding yourself, it's for CREATING yourself. 

 

It's really hard to change what many of us perceive as "nothing much" into something relevant. But if you believe that what you do on a daily basis is relevant, and you put your heart into it, and you enjoy it, how is it NOT relevant? Eventually it will all lead to a definition of yourself that you can be proud to present and - voila! crisis averted.

 

Easier said than done ;)

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Permalink Reply by Colleen Fiske on March 21, 2011 at 6:11pm

I think as 20-somethings,(30-somethings, 40-somethings, heck .. everyone) we're always going to have struggles. I thought I had my life figured out - I graduated from university, landed a good job, had great friends and was loving life. That all came crashing down in a matter of months.

I think my biggest struggle was trying to define myself .. figure out who I was. I'm a perfectionist (trying to slay that dragon as we speak) so in my mind everything should go accordingly, but clearly that is NEVER the case. For three months I was lost .. nothing I did made me feel any better. Then one day, I was wallowing in my sea of dread when something just snapped inside of me. What am I waiting for? If I want to see a change, I need to stop worrying about life and just go with the flow. I forced myself to smile all the time .. some people must have thought I was crazy .. and suddenly I didn't have to force myself to smile anymore, I was doing it on my own.

I credit my ever-lasting great friendships I have and my family for standing beside me and telling me it would all be ok. Sometimes you need to go through the hard stuff to reach the good stuff .. and when you see the other side, it's awesome.  I know I'll probably have another life crisis at some point, but I know I have a great support system and positive thoughts that will help me along the way.