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Survey: What is your BIGGEST quarterlife challenge?
As a quarterlifer, what is the biggest challenge you face? Ok, ok, so if you can't limit it to one, how about your top three?
I'll start:
1. Money. I work really hard and sometimes wish that all my hard work would start to pay off financially...a bit sooner...
2. The worry of: "have I chosen the right path?" what if I dedicate so much time, energy and effort into my career and it doesn't work out?
3. Agism. I am judged often and not taken as seriously in my profession by certain older individuals. Very frustrating.
I would love to compile everyone's answers into a blog post once I have a good handful. So thanks in advance for contributing!
Tags: challenge, quarterlife
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Permalink Reply by Kelsey Elizabeth on -
1. Deciding if what I majored in in college is going to take me where I want to go
2. Finding a decent job to pay the bills
3. Figuring out what I like. I wouldn't say I'm a follower by any means, but for the most part I'm a "good girl" that does what is expected of me. I take responsibility for my actions, I work hard, do homework instead of partying, and do what I can to help the people I love. So I need to discover exactly what it is I want and enjoy, just to make sure I'm not doing the things I do because it's expected of me!
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Permalink Reply by happinessisme on -
Wow, it's glad to know I am in good company. After years of thinking I wanted to be an actor and writer I am now questioning it when faced with the real world after graduation next year. I'm 23 and go to a hippie liberal arts college where I am basically making up my own major and all of my friends have graduated and are going to masters programs or working. So i guess I am in the same boat when it comes to not knowing what the next step is at all. Am I going to be able to find a job in this market? Plus I haven't had a relationship in over 5 years and I'm so ready to embark on something mutual and stop the random b.s.
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Permalink Reply by Jason Simone on -
I'm mostly worried about my "path", or where I'm going to be in the future. I'm not entirely happy with my life at the moment, and I don't want to feel this way forever!
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Permalink Reply by Marian Schembari on -
Along with everyone else apparently, my biggest thing is deciding what I want to do. It seems so daunting to pick a career and stick with it. What if you devote all that time and energy and then suddenly you're bored/fucked/unhappy? No one wants to be that person.
HOWEVER. I'm in this coaching program and the thing I'm learning is that it's totally cool to pick something that you love now, but might not want to do 5 years from now. It's really freeing to live in the moment and not worry about being successful in a career you may not love way down the line.
Hopefully this is moderately articulate, but it's important so pay attention: It's okay to follow your passions, even if you're unsure if you'll still be passionate later. It's not flaky. It's not irresponsible. It will keep you WAY happier down the line (and now), I promise :) -
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Permalink Reply by neena rae on -
1. Finances (repairing my credit screw ups from UG years, paying bills while in grad school, trying to save, worrying about the job and salary so I can pay on the loans :( , etc
2. Same as yours? What am I going to do once I finish my Masters?? Focused on employment bc I need income to tackle all of these grown up issues, lol
3. Family life plan with my S.O. Both of us are trying to figure out the best way to merge our lives and personal ambitions when we decide to get married and start the family life together.
4. Proving I can be a RESPONSIBLE adult, lol after this degree I have to focus on making plans for the future and finding out what makes me happy Now. I'm not the same person I was a year ago and already this year has been an adventure. -
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Permalink Reply by Adria on -
1) Everyone says your twenties are the time to be broke and adventurous, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to do both of those things. Things like "adventure" always take money and it seems that all I have time for these days is making enough money to pay my rent (again, something I'm trying to figure out how to remedy in my blog (www.coloring-insidethelines.blogspot.com)
2) Knowing, as I do, just how importance each and every decision I make is, I have such a hard time making them lately! It's almost as if I can tell that every decision has such a strong impact on the way that my life will "turn out".
3) I endlessly struggle with wondering whether or not I am, or am capable of becoming the adult that my child-self wanted to be. I think this is the most important thing to be aware of and honor as an "adult" (which I still have a hard time thinking of myself as!), because it is what roots you to your integrity and your "you"ness. That being said, I think it's one of the hardest things to accomplish.
Good luck! This is a great question! -
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Permalink Reply by chelsea provencio on -
i'm 21 and i think i'm already hitting that whole quaterlife crisis:
1. i think i moved out too soon
2. i moved out with my boyfriend who i really don't see myself marrying and now i don't know how to get out of the relationship because
3. i planned school and work around where i'm currently at so i'm not sure what to do if i change my circumstances....
yay :) -
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Permalink Reply by Beatles and Booze on -
I agree completely with everything you said!
I feel underestimated and over qualified. I constantly feel like I have to choose between love and a career. I feel very pressured by time. I feel like I just keep getting older and I am afraid that the older I get the less energy I will have to fulfill my goals. I love this group! I called last year my "quarter-life crisis" and I can not believe how many other people are going through the same thing! -
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Permalink Reply by Mamba Rose on -
MONEY!
I justttt might be homeless in a month, but I DO have fabulous shoes? haha, cmon' student loan pull through for me!
http://mambarose.blogspot.com/ -
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Permalink Reply by Marianne on -
Coming to grips with failed artistic pursuits, being able to support myself doing something else (which I haven't figured out what yet), and basically what everyone else on here said. I guess my answer isn't too original but I thought I'd chime in just to meet people. Thanks!
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Permalink Reply by Julia K. on -
Okay My Top 3:
1. Right path- this one plagues me to no end. I made a decision when I was 17 to not be a pharmacist (though I had the grades and brain to do so) because I wanted to do something where I talked to people. Now I have 2 liberal arts degrees and work for an awesome company, but I wonder if I will ever feel secure enough financially.
2. Family/Love Future- I feel like I'm so jaded at 25. Mostly because I thought by 25 I'd be married and planning for my first kid. Now, I'm thinking that I'll never get married, and if I have a kid, it'll be through adoption. But at that point I circle back around to no one will let me adopt, because I'm not financially secure enough, and so I'll never have a family, etc. etc.
3. Money, it's a drag- I trusted my biological father when he said he would help me while I was living in Germany as an exchange student to finish my degree. I wasn't getting paid. He decided not to help, and I had credit cards that went to collections as a result. I feel like I'm never going to dig myself out of this one. I couldn't go to my parents (mom and stepdad) because I didn't want them to be disappointed, didn't want them to yell at my bio-father, and my mom was fighting health issues. At the end of the day I regret how I, as someone who thought it would never happen to them, became someone who couldn't handle money....
But aside from that, several of the jobs I want, are ones where I have to pay my dues before I can even consider an interview, so I'm sucking it up and getting paid far less than I feel I should, simply because I don't have enough hours logged in the field. -
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Permalink Reply by Melanie Taylor on -
1. Insecurity. I talk a mad game, and I'm probably even a bit of a narcissistic jerk at heart, but at the end of the day, I doubt my own abilities. I feel like I'm sliding back into my introverted high school self after my years in college where the social lubricants were free-flowing.
2. Planning. For EVERYTHING. Because things aren't just supposed to "happen" when you're an adult. Money is such a deciding factor, in everything from job choices to weekend plans to when to have children. And it feels like time is just slipping away.
3. Finding my direction, career-wise. See below. Sigh.
I'm seriously considering a second Bachelors. I did the "follow your dreams and interests and to hell with earning potential or marketability" the first go-round and it hasn't paid off in the three years since I graduated.
My degree? A B.S. in Zoology. I love the subject matter, but it has only led to two positions, including my current one, at the same company. And I haven't enjoyed either. In fact, despite being in an extension of "my field," I'm doing pretty much the opposite of everything I'm passionate about. The only part of the job I remotely enjoy is the computer stuff: entering data, pulling reports, finding and correcting discrepancies, analyzing trends.
So I'm considering diving into additional debt (I still have 11K from my first degree) to become an Accountant. Not exactly your typical "dream job," but I know I'd enjoy it more than this. -
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