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When Did You Discover Your Quarter-Life Crisis?
I didn't realize I was going through a quarter-life crisis until I was almost 25. At that time I broke-up with my long-term boyfriend, started feeling like my job was going nowhere and I didn't know what to do next. I came across the term from a friend who told me it sounded like "the quarter-life crisis bug."
What event or moment made you discover you were/are going through the dreaded quarter-life crisis?
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Permalink Reply by Raghav Srivastava on -
I think that has a lot to do with figuring out when the quarter-life crisis actually is.... i see it as either the moment one hits a bad slump... or the moment a person realizes he's in that slump and needs to do some major damage control. If its the latter, then for me it would have to be after I acknowledged that a four-year long relationship was over while being jobless and feeling stuck... and then going into a three-day planning frenzy on how I was going to change all that around...
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Permalink Reply by Spunky Lady on -
From my personal experience I think its the latter also. I think its when you realize that you've fallen into the slump and need to make proactive decisions to change things, that you start freaking out. Well at least thats what it was for me. I think hitting the bad slump takes a minute, while getting out of the slump seems to take forever!
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Permalink Reply by Raghav Srivastava on
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Thats true. I know I freak out because in that moment, the feeling is that everything needs to happen now now now. lol. I've always said that I've never been cursed with patience. And as for hitting a slump, all it takes is one random moment to set one's life spinning.. for better or for worse. My car "drowned almost exactly two years ago when it was raining. Water got into its computer through... get this.. a leaky seal around an air pollen filter. I dont even friggin have allergies! So I've spent the last two years trying to get it together to get a car, and I still have about a month to go before I get it.. All it took was one rainy day. lol.
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Permalink Reply by Josh Opinion on -
For me it was when my dad passed away and I took a long look at what I was doing career wise and it wasn't fulfilling, I had sacrificed a lot of time and energy and it didn't feed me. I quit my job, tried some start ups that ultimately failed and fell in and out of depression. It was through that time period where I finally did find my true passion and it was nothing close to who I thought I wanted to be.
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Permalink Reply by Spunky Lady on
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First off, sorry for your loss! That is such a tough thing to deal with. Its great when you finally stumble on something fits.
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Permalink Reply by Kanwal Khalid on -
Business school made me realize that I was going through quarter life crisis. My extreme indifference towards studying, these days and the fact that there is really no purpose to what I'm doing is making a mess out of things. There's not even much that can be done about it now, because this is my third year in undergraduate business school and there is no way I can switch my majors/scope of interest right now. It just really sucks.
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Permalink Reply by Spunky Lady on
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I feel you on this one but remember, just because you're getting an undergrad degree in business, doesn't mean you can't change careers later in life! I'll give you my example. In undergrad I started out wanting to be a pharmacist, got into pharmacy school and then dropped out because I hated it. With only two years left in undergrad, I switched majors and then got a Master's degree. Now, three years later, I have a job where I do not use my Master's degree at all and I have now decided to embark onto a new career path. I've heard that a lot of people end up changing careers. I'm also contemplating getting an MBA now and I'm in the healthcare field, totally diff. gears! So don't worry, you're young, there's still time to pursue all of your passions in life!!!! =)
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Permalink Reply by Summer on -
I realized it when I graduated with my master's degree and still found that I was not working in accounting despite my stellar GPA & all that money that had gone towards my education. At the same time feeling trapped because I can't really leave my job thanks to four kids and a husband in the Navy... SOMEONE has to be the reliable parent for the kids... still yet, I don't really know what's going to happen with my career. I'm studying for the CPA exam now & if I think too long about the situation I get disappointed. My HR person finally told me to just "take it one day at a time"
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Permalink Reply by Spunky Lady on
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I agree with your HR person! Taking it one day at a time is def. the best thing to do. I used to drive myself crazy alllll the time thinking about how I have a Master's degree and I was doing entry-level bachelor's degree work for about 2 years. Not to mention, working for a not-for-profit plus paying off student loans and living in NYC, I felt entrapped. But I'm going to say, you're one tough lady for having so much on your plate and handling it so well!!!! The CPA will be well worth it! =)
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Permalink Reply by Mary on -
It's true. You definitely have to take things one day at a time! I learned the hard way. It also really helps to do the things you love in your free time. Good luck with your exam! You already have so much in your background that I'm sure you will have a wonderful future.
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Permalink Reply by Jaxie Fantastic on -
I hit it I think when I got laid off in September, 3 months before my 25th birthday. It's been rough going since then and I'm kind of floundering trying to figure out what to do next. I'm working through it and trying new things, volunteering in order to have something to do in my spare time when I'm not job searching. I'm learning a lot about myself and hopefully will be able to make some good decisions in the next year here. :)
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Permalink Reply by Spunky Lady on
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Wow, you're really in the middle of your QLC! You remind me of myself two years ago! I'm sure you're thinking thanks for stating the obvious, lol, but really, honestly it gets better. I turned 25 in Sept. 2008 and thats when my long-term bf broke up with me and left me alone in New York. It was a craptacular 25th birthday! I spent 2009 really learning about myself and despite it being a horrible year, things did get better and I'll say the same for you! Cheers to a absolutely spectacular 2010!!!! =)
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