How far is too far?

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Permalink Reply by momochacha on May 8, 2008 at 12:11am

I think at least 50% of my blog is very TMI-ish; and I've generally gotten good responses (and surprisingly NOT from pervs) to those posts. I think if you want to keep it tasteful, it's more about taking an appropriate tone than sticking to acceptable subject matter. What do you think?

Personally, there's a very clear line I wouldn't cross on a blog that would be associated with me -- anything I wouldn't want my friends or colleagues reading about is off limits. Which means the farthest I'd go in a non-anonymous blog is probably to talk about sex generally and impersonally without detail. But on an anonymous blog, anything goes, which I love. I can talk about anything from temptations to cheat to intimate details of human anatomy.

Permalink Reply by Ashley on June 26, 2008 at 5:37pm

Hmm... I'd have to say I haven't truly written anything that I'd consider too risky. I think if I was single and dating around there'd be more grpahic details because I'm a really open person but given my blog isn't anonymous, I'm more concerned with hurting or offending my other half (or those I write about in general, such as friendships). My lines are drawn when I care about those in my life and their feelings and privacy, not so much my own or who's reading it.

Permalink Reply by aiko on August 25, 2008 at 4:56pm

Nothing is off limits as far as I'm concerned, but I am an exhibitionist after all. When I started mine, it was private, so dishing out the dirty details was no biggie. Once I started sharing it, I decided not to edit myself-- though I did start editing my photos a little, avoiding face shots if I can, just in case.

Permalink Reply by Adam on September 13, 2008 at 9:09pm

In the words of Dean Cameron, it's not how far you go, it's how go you far.

I dunno what that means either.

I don't think it matters how far you go. A blog is a place to express yourself. Personally, I've talked about all my kinks and a few deal-breakers. I just posted a blog a couple weeks ago that proposes a sexual resume for dating. And the other day I talked about my experiences shaving my balls.

Permalink Reply by Ms. S on October 3, 2008 at 12:57pm

What I was always very concerned about was my privacy and the privacy of those involved in my stories, therefore I write anonymously and I never write the names of the people involved there. Where is the fine line... would you be ashamed if someone you respect or someone you care for read what you write? I guess that is the line. When would it become a Sex blog? Well... when I think of people the age of my little sisters (15) are too young to read... then it is too far. I think we all kind have a sense for it. If you cross the line, someone will let you know.

Permalink Reply by sequined on October 8, 2008 at 12:37am

I sometimes feel like really going into the details of a story but choose not to because I feel awkward writing about it, and other times I share more because it's relevant or whatever. In general I'm on the discreet side, in part because a couple of my close friends read my blog on occasion. I just kind of let my mood and my sense of audience guide me.

Permalink Reply by HyperSexualGirl on November 26, 2008 at 9:43pm

I think the answer to this is you go as far as you feel personally comfortable. It's your blog. If veering into the explicit bothers you, then don't go there. If you have no problem with going way out there, then go as far as you want.

I think some of the answer also depends on whether your blog is anonymous or not. If you decide to remain anonymous -- or only partly so, or only tell certain friends about it -- then that may shade how comfortable you feel, too. Is your blog your most personal diary and you don't mind who reads it, even if one of your relatives or former school friends stumble on it? Or is it something no one who actually knows you would realize was yours?

My blog is sexually explicit and definitely not something children should read. That's who I am as a person. I strive to write frankly about my life and thoughts in a literate way. At the same time, I don't want my blog to come across as cheap porn and only for titillation. I want it to be erotic and thought-provoking but not garbage. I have no problem with being "out there" but I want people to respect my blog for what I have to say, not because it's like free smut. My blog is anonymous in that I don't identify myself by name, but many of my friends read it regularly.

Permalink Reply by Chef Green on June 8, 2009 at 8:20pm

I agree with the general consensus here. Its not how much, but how well one writes a confessional that defines it as "trash" or "treasure."
You should peruse my highly scandalous chef-life blog.

Permalink Reply by Jake Holden on August 11, 2009 at 3:11pm

There is no line!

Permalink Reply by Confessions on September 10, 2009 at 8:25am

I guess I feel it out depending upon my story.

I do like to tease a bit so sometimes I feel like you can get more, find more challenge, and feel more rewarded by saying something suggestive rather than explicit. Anyone can say they got fucked... but I appreciate blogging more when it includes the lead up to, the emotions, amd the physical effects of the sex. ;) But thats just me.

I guess probably my riskiest post thus far was a story of the seduction and heat I feel when swimming with a guy and the details of one such outing. :P

Permalink Reply by R. on April 2, 2010 at 12:04pm

I think it's all about what you're comfortable sharing. I read blogs that to me, are very over the top. But to the person writing, it's just everyday life. I think I'm more careful because of what I do, I don't want my co-workers reading about every down and dirty detail of my sex life. Then again, if my co-workers have found my blog, it's a risk they take. Also, I'm a bit of a prude so I feel a little naughty telling other people about my naked adventures.

Permalink Reply by Mounting Counting (anonymous) on April 25, 2010 at 7:23pm

Good question! There are so many books that sort of gloss over sex scenes and are graphic enough to stimulate the reader without being blatantly TMI. It's a tough subject to balance. I'd say a juicy tidbit or two when describing sex without an outrageously graphic play by play that's overly detailed.